Settle a debate: who does the groom toast in his speech?

[InNeedOfDebretts]

Brother getting married tomorrow. I've helped him a little with his speech. I thought - and using two UK websites with templates for what you need to cover that also said this - the Groom toasts his new Bride.
I talked to our parents this morning. They insist the Father of the Bride is the one who toasts the new wife, and the Groom toasts the Bridesmaids. Unfortunately, I then found two more UK websites that agreed with them.

Who is right?
(We don't really mind, it's not too important really is it?! - just if tradition has it one way or the other we'll go with what's expected§)

YABU: The Groom toasts the Bridesmaids, who let you loose on his speech you know nothing!
YANBU: You had it right all along of course, the Groom toasts his Wife

Thank you Mumsnetters!

Hear, hear. The last straight wedding I was at, the bride and groom made (brief) speeches about how fabulous the other one was, the best man sang a Nick Cave song, and the bridesmaid did simultaneous translation for everything else and did the toasts.

I'm from the north of Scotland and when DH and I got married my father (who knew about such things and was an excellent speechmaker himself) said that there should be four speeches but we had to choose people who could give good speeches to give the toasts and the best man and bridegroom should just do very short thankyous. So that's what we did. Someone who knew both my bridesmaids toasted them and the best man did the thanks then a friend of DH and mine toasted us and DH did the thanks. Less stress for the main people involved in the ceremony and entertaining speeches for the guests. So never mind what's traditional, think about how to entertain the guests. His other top tip was always have the speeches after the meal because your guests will be more receptive, with full stomachs and a few drinks in them.

But please don't say 'on behalf of my wife and I" because it's not grammatically correct. "My wife and me" is better 🙂

I try to stay quiet when it comes to points of grammar but wedding toasts clearly send people into confusion https://medium.com/creators-hub/a-simple-trick-for-knowing-when-to-use-and-me-or-and-i-1c7e4e49e529

I hope the wedding went well @InNeedOfDebretts

Why would it be either/or? Everybody toasts the bride!

I agree this is the traditional arrangement (in the UK).

Does it all really matter? It just drags the proceedings out ...