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to give teachers a 'snack pack' for trips?

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WhatGoesHere · 14/06/2024 09:48

so - my son is due to go on a school residential for 3 nights.
Do you think it would be weird to send him with a box/bag of treats for the teachers - to help them "get through" the ordeal long days? I'm just thinking some biscuits, hot chocolate sachets, box of celebrations - that kind of thing.

I think it might be better than a thank you of the same thing after the event? I will ask DS to write a thank you card too - as teachers are giving up time and i gather it's actually really hard work taking kids away on these things?

do you think the admin staff should get a few treats too for their office? As they presumably did lots of prep work too??

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WhatGoesHere · 14/06/2024 09:50

oh god - why am I being unreasonable???

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Bimblepops · 14/06/2024 09:51

I think that’s a lovely idea. I’m sure the teachers would appreciate that

Mrsjayy · 14/06/2024 09:51

It's a bit much maybe a thank you once they get back a card and a small gift, you really are over thinking it,

WindowViper · 14/06/2024 09:51

It’s a bit like you’re sucking up. Others might feel pressure to do similar.

It is a nice thing to do, but a little OTT.

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 14/06/2024 09:52

They will be super busy and focused on the kids, it's a nice thought but it would be something more for them to manage.

QueenOfTheEntireFuckingUniverse · 14/06/2024 09:52

I think it's an odd idea. If they want/ need snacks they will take them.

WhatGoesHere · 14/06/2024 09:53

Mrsjayy · 14/06/2024 09:51

It's a bit much maybe a thank you once they get back a card and a small gift, you really are over thinking it,

perhaps - but it would just be the same thing? just given in advance?

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Octavia64 · 14/06/2024 09:53

Box of celebrations yes, everything else no

Whinge · 14/06/2024 09:53

I don't think it's an unreasonable idea, but I wouldn't do it.

Imagine if every parent / carer sent some biscuits, hot chocolate sachets, box of celebrations. It's a lot, especially as they're likely to get more gifts / food at the end of the school year.

You should say thank you when you collect and your DS making a card is a lovely idea, but there's no need to send a snack box.

LakesideInn · 14/06/2024 09:53

I would do the thank you and some chocs afterwards. Otherwise you’re just giving them more things to think about and carry or store. Office staff will always be chuffed to be remembered and included in the thanks.

BudgetQ · 14/06/2024 09:54

I think it’s overkill sorry. Bit ingratiating. Just give them a bottle of plonk at the end of term (or gin if you want to make a splash) and write a special thank you in the card. They will appreciate that a lot more than snacks on a trip.

Mrsjayy · 14/06/2024 09:54

I imagine the teachers will be sneaking some of those cocktail cans and not that bothered about snacks😀

SmallSoupcon · 14/06/2024 09:54

As a former teacher, it's lovely you're such a thoughtful parent, but I'd probably appreciate a thank-you gift more afterwards, during recovery! 😄

Landolover · 14/06/2024 09:54

I’m a teacher …. I think this is really thoughtful and a lovely idea. My only worry would be ‘is there enough space in my luggage’? 🤣 It might be better on return because of this x

aerkfjherf · 14/06/2024 09:55

nice idea - I think teachers would appreciate it, and I have sometimes done something similar - not before the trip, but a little box of treats I have given to each teacher when they come back, for a nice luxury evening, a couple of extravagant cup cakes, a mini bottle of wine, a tiny box of those very expensive chocolates that you can buy in boxes of 2! etc

Years later I still remember the way exhausted looking staff revived and smiled when I handed these over, along with a couple of comments about how all the text messages we had been receiving told us what an amazing time our kids were having.

I think on that particular trip staff had been caught up in a couple of teens having major upsets and friendships dramas, and had lost sight of the fact the vast majority of the cohort were having the time of their lives

CheshireDing · 14/06/2024 09:56

Just say thanks when they get back and move on. It's their job. Teachers don't need more food, stuff etc etc

It's like at Christmas vouchers, chocolate, wine etc, they're doing their job.

NeedToChangeName · 14/06/2024 09:56

LakesideInn · 14/06/2024 09:53

I would do the thank you and some chocs afterwards. Otherwise you’re just giving them more things to think about and carry or store. Office staff will always be chuffed to be remembered and included in the thanks.

Agree with this

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 14/06/2024 09:56

WindowViper · 14/06/2024 09:51

It’s a bit like you’re sucking up. Others might feel pressure to do similar.

It is a nice thing to do, but a little OTT.

Im imagining some busy teacher trying to deal with 20 packs of treats that 20 different kids all want to give them at once 🤦🏽‍♀️.

ViaRia01 · 14/06/2024 09:57

I think your idea is perfect. A little note to say thanks for their extra time and work to give your children this experience and time away from home.

As for the PP saying “something extra for them to manage”, well that did make me laugh. I’ve never met anyone who would struggle to “manage” a pack of hobnobs and some quality street. Honestly!

Whatsnormalhere · 14/06/2024 09:57

This feels very OTT

Talipesmum · 14/06/2024 09:58

I think a whole box of a selection of things feels like overkill. A box of celebrations might be nice, keeps it more low key and easy and fun. But I remember dropping my kids off for their residentials, in the school playground, teachers standing with clipboards counting heads and ticking off medical lists and calming excited children and checking for lost suitcases - being handed an - albeit nice- extra thing to take care of could just be awkward and hard to manage in the moment.

A nice thank you card to them all afterwards - with celebrations for the staff room? - would be very appreciated and easier to manage.

aerkfjherf · 14/06/2024 09:59

here is an idea, how about a couple of packets of those extravagant "coffee bags" - real coffee without a coffee machine or cafeteire. Maybe a caffienated packet and a decaff packet, that is 20 cups of decent coffee between them on the trip - a little boost, but not to fussy?

I never did anything like that for a school trip - now I am wishing I had thought about it

fieldsofbutterflies · 14/06/2024 09:59

It's a nice idea but honestly seems a bit OTT to me.

Mrsjayy · 14/06/2024 10:00

I mean a box of sweets rather than a whole selection is a better idea,

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 14/06/2024 10:00

ViaRia01 · 14/06/2024 09:57

I think your idea is perfect. A little note to say thanks for their extra time and work to give your children this experience and time away from home.

As for the PP saying “something extra for them to manage”, well that did make me laugh. I’ve never met anyone who would struggle to “manage” a pack of hobnobs and some quality street. Honestly!

Have you seen it before a camp? The teacher's dealing with luggage and medication and getting everyone on the bus, its chaos. I wouldn't appreciate a snack pack being handed to me. They want everyone in and parents out and kids on the bus asap, so yes it is another thing to manage in the context of that moment.