To think this is unfair? Covid related

[Smokedcheesyballs]

I work in a small environment and on Monday one colleague came in saying she had Covid. She did not look well and said she felt awful. A few of the staff felt that it was unethical that she was in work and potentially spreading a highly contagious virus. She did not wear a face mask.
On Tuesday I came home feeling unwell so did a test and it was positive. I have been feeling terrible and not been in work. I get the impression my boss thinks I'm slacking but I don't think I should be in.
To make matters worse I have now passed Covid onto my husband who is a very vunerable patient (has neuroendocrine cancer).
Basically am trying to ask AIBU thinking that said colleague should not have been a martyr (not sure if correct use of the word) by coming into work not to let the boss down???, and in doing so unnecessarily spreading the virus?|

There is a reason testing for respiratory viruses isn't a thing. It's because it costs money and makes no difference to what you should do.

So it's a waste of medical resources.

Covid isn't just a respiratory virus though and most of the people still testing rely on the tests to access anti virals.
Or are you saying that people who are cev shouldn't Get the anti vitals because its wasting money?

You go from "You have my sympathies" to "suck it up buttercup" faster than the speed of light.
And here we have the problem. People just don't care about each other any more. It's depressing to see, and as someone whose life has changed for the worse because of Covid, it's frightening to see how quick it's been.

The difference between covid and other infections, in my opinion, @Godnotthisagain, is how randomly long covid can and does strike. You don’t have to be deathly ill/in ICU to get long covid, nor do you have to have a compromised immune system.

I was fairly healthy when I got covid, and dh, who has MS and therefore is classed as clinically vulnerable got it at the same time. Neither of us felt ill - it was like a nasty cold - but I dropped my oxygen sats and ended up in hospital, and now I have long covid, whereas dh sailed through it unscathed.

I am now disabled by long covid - over 2 years after getting ill - I get breathless going to the loo. I can’t stand for any length of time - having a shower is my limit, for standing - and I have to sit down to clean my teeth. I can’t cook a meal on my own, and even sitting at the table, doing food prep with dh helping, leaves me shaking with fatigue. I sleep late every day, and am still exhausted. I go out once a week, to knitting group, but have to be dropped off and picked up at the door. I haven’t been in a shop since I got covid, apart from 2 visits to Boots, to get an eye test and pick up new glasses.

So many people get long covid - and it wrecks lives - and it bears no relationship to how seriously you have the initial covid infection - that is what is SO scary about it.

I added the last line simply in response to ArseInTheCoOpWindow's quite unnecessarily telling me to fuck off, when all I did was state facts about how covid is treated now by the vast majority of the populace and by the authorities. I said nothing controversial or opinionated and what i wrote was reasoned and factual. I simply did not deserve to be told to fuck off.

I appreciate life is harder from those who are immunocompromised and for that she does indeed have my sympathise, but that doesn't give her the right to randomly attack people who in her opinion simply haven't walked on enough eggshells for her liking.

So she can jolly well suck it up, like a buttercup! 😂

I wasn’t immunicompromused.

Snd l did say please.

I wasn’t immunocompromised either, @Godnotthisagain - and yet long covid has left me almost housebound, unable to do the simple things like cooking a meal or going shopping, or even standing up for any length of time, and unable to do anything that doesn’t involve being driven to the door, then sitting down as soon as possible. No more wandering round stately homes or castles for me. No more dog walking.

Yeah, I’m in a wheelchair and Dd has just tested positive.

And it’s like 2020 again. Masks and tests and isolating. I’m fucked if l catch it again.

@Smokedcheesyballs Hello! I know this post is old but I was searching the forum for neuroendocrine cancer and this came up! My husband also has it (diagnosed end of 2022) and interested in chatting with others in similar position, particularly in relation to treatment for carcinoid syndrome treatment as his quality of life has been awful due to this x

What are the workplace policies ,?my dh ,had ri work with covid despite being vulnerable himself ,
Aa his Employers expect him in covid positive or not .

I am a teacher and actively encouraged to come to work if I am unwell and power through so they don't need to pay for cover. We have to come to work if we have COVID unless we are really too unwell but that would have to be a high bar.

The biggest insult is we are told to stay away from staffroom if unwell but no problem with passing it on to all the kids 🤷🏼‍♀️

I would advise people who worked for me to stay at home if they were too poorly to be in and there was a chance that other people would catch it. It's self defeating, one person spreads it and then more people are off sick. COVID has just become another winter bug but it's very serious. My partner had it a couple of months ago and has been massively affected. Exhausted, off colour generally. It's really impacting his quality of life.