nursery opening hours

[scottishgal09]

I need to go back to work so will soon be putting my 9 month old in nursery, only thing is that the earliest I can find any nursery open is 7 am to 7 pm. The 7 pm closing time is fine but I really find I need a opening time of 6 pm. I also work Saturday mornings so need something that is open 6 days. Start time should be at least 6:00 pm but I struggle to find this. Do these type of nursery’s exist? What are the opening and closing hours for your nursery’s? Why don’t nursery’s take into account that some parents need to work 6 days 🤨?

Exactly.

OP’s baby will be absolutely fine. As are many who are in nursery full time.

Saturday mornings aren’t going to suddenly make her baby have an insecure attachment.

It's not 6 days. It's 5 days and a morning. 'Cruel' is your moral judgment and has no bearing on OP's query.

Yeah. I don't care.

Exactly this! You can’t just dump your baby in nursery all day everyday, it’s not possible because of the amount of time they have off sick in the first year.
Aside from that it is really sad that people have children to leave them every day for the whole day. I don’t know anyone who has done all day everyday in nursery, in my friend groups or in my workplace… I’d rather live with less and spend more time with my children as time is one thing you can’t buy. But no point trying to change your mind it just seems weird to work two jobs ‘to pay for nursery’.

Couldn't disagree more. A 9 month old baby suddenly being ripped away from her mother for every waking hour? It's barbaric.

Why am I not surprised?

The OP makes a fair point though...why should she have to give up a good job with very long hours that she enjoys just because she has had a baby. Why should she, as a mother, have to make any sacrifices for a baby which has wandered into her life. It will be perfectly fine living in a nursery with lots of other children and an ever rotating number of staff. It will be fed and changed. What more can a child ask for? 🙄

There are nursery’s that have places for a child to start right away but they dont offer the hours I need. I have help at the moment my aunt but she can’t always help, I need a plan for the future.

You need a nanny, or a childminder for these hours unfortunately.

It isn’t every waking hour and they aren’t suddenly being ripped away. 🙄

Again with the weird idea that people don't have toys, games and puzzles at home for their children and so the only way for them to access these is nursery.

OP does your baby have toys? Please say she does.

One thing I would watch out for op is nursery's are open longer than schools so please don't be under the impression it will be easier when she is at school.
Even with wrap around care you'd struggle to find one open at 6am and the amount of holidays/inservice days are far more than when your DD is in nursery. I really do think you'll struggle far more when she is at school

I was going to suggest this.

6-6 is such a long day for a baby/small child in a nursery setting too. In fact it’s a long day for an adult!

I can't understand why you've got such a low opinion of childminders. I used one one day a week and work weekends and she provided amazing care. Childminders are also highly qualified and often provide portfolios of evidence of activities they do with the children. It's also a much more comfortable environment especially with less children and the home environment.

I'm sorry but I feel sad to think you will rarely see your baby awake with the hours. I think you will regret it and you will want to lessen the hours or have to look for a new job. There's got to be a balance in life and you don't have that right now. Lots of luck, I really do reccomend a childminder. I do 12 hours and my childminder started early especially to accommodate me.

Well it is actually the vast majority of the child's waking hours. I think that is a fact we have clearly established.

I think you’ll find that all registered childminders will have those attributes. They are OFSTED inspected. The only difference is that there might not be other children there.

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Are you both working from 7am (I guess roughly to need a 6amish nursery)? Could you speak to your company's to do 1 hour later every other day at all so you each alternate a 7am drop off? Or is that definately not possible within your jobs?

It isn't something I have seen at nursery's to be able to do 6am, you may be able to find a sitter to do an hour and drop at nursery as nursery is your overall preference? That way it's just an hour then the childcare you prefer

Well, it pretty much is though, isn't it?

Baby wakes at say 5:15, is dressed has a quick breakfast and is dropped off at 6am. Then collected at 5. Straight home, dinner, bath, bed, as would need to be asleep around 6, to ensure enough sleep. Repeat for 5 days and then half a day on Saturday... Also, not clue when baby sees dad either, as he works on a Sunday ... Not entirely sure when baby sees dad properly? So he might see dad in the brief times in morning,and half of Saturday??

its shit.

The majority, sure. Every waking hour? Emotive nonsense that isn’t even accurate.

As is the pp’s still insisting it’s 6 full days and completely ignoring it’s just a Saturday morning.

I think you’ll struggle to find any nursery on a Saturday OP unfortunately.
I couldn’t find one that opened before 7.30am near us but am aware some open at 7.

At the end of the day what hours you want to put your child in nursery is your choice not anybody elses. I personally would try work it so you or your husband is at home on a weekend so they only have to be out the house monday to Friday.

Also bear in mind that starting nursery is very overwhelming for them, and when mine first started there was quite a few days I got a call to pick them up early because they were overstimulated, crying for ages and just couldn’t be calmed down. Probably a high change of this in a 9 month old going 5 full days a week. Also they are home all the time with illnesses they catch from nursery, and you can’t send them in poorly so just account for this as well when you go back to work. You’ll need time off to look after them while there I’ll. I think ours spent more time at home than nursery during her first year because of this.

I hope you find what you’re looking for, but may need to re-think because I think you’ll struggle to find one that opens before 7.

You seem very fixated on Drs working hours, very few doctors put their children in nurseries 6 days a week for 11 hours a day. Only 25% of female NHS staff who have young children work full-time. Yes hospital nurseries are usually more flexible with opening and closing times, but I doubt many children are there for 11 hours a day, 5 days a week.

When do you actually plan to spend time with your child? When the child is little they will need to be going to bed at 6.30/7pm. You will then have to get them up at 5am to get them to nursery, that isn’t good for the child’s development.

I really don’t understand why your child will be bored at home with you. Surely you’ll play games with them, read to them, play with their toys, take them to the park, go out for the day, go for a walk, maybe take them to a baby or toddler group. They shouldn’t be getting bored spending time with their parents.

Even if you do miraculously find a nursery that starts at 6am, you won’t find wrap around care for school age children starting that early. Appart from anything young school children get extremely tired and getting up at 5am every morning will affect their development. Also what do you plan to do with your school age child on a Saturday?

You and your husband really need to look at your jobs, it would be much more beneficial for one of you to start work later and the other one to finish earlier so that your child can go to nursery for a more standard 9 or so hours.

Also surely your husband doesn’t work 7 days a week, if he works every weekend he must get days off during the week. Can he not look after your child then and give them a day/days off from nursery each week?

"It’s about sacrificing for your child."

....or sacrificing your child for your career! One or the other!

Many dads only see their children at the weekend. I rarely see them judged for it.

It isn’t uncommon for some people to work at least one weekend day too. Not everyone works jobs where they can have weekends off.

We also have no idea of commuting distances, how far nursery is or baby’s bedtime.

No one can convince @scottishgal09 that what she is asking for is impossible or that her child will not be disadvantaged by being away from home for most of five days and a lot of the sixth. Kids don't want material things. They want love, security, routine and to feel wanted.