To go for dinner somewhere DH doesn’t love

[restaurantqs]

There’s things he will eat but he doesn’t think the food is amazing, so he’s always a bit ambivalent about it

I have a pregnancy craving for one item on the menu which you can’t get anywhere else. They don’t do takeout. He suggested we can go there if I want but is it a bit mean to go with him when it’s not his preferred choice? I could always wait and go with a friend or family

YABU - go with someone else later in the week
YANBU - you’re pregnant, DH can deal with it!

how often do you go out for dinner together?

you’re not going to drip feed that it’s his birthday are you?!

You are literally growing his baby, go to the restaurant and enjoy it guilt free, he can suck it up.

You’re pregnant you win ding ding ding … he can deal

You are pregnant and having a craving and it’s not that he hates it just that it isn’t his preferred choice

and he is about to be a dad he might as well get used to not going to his preferred choice 😂

Yeah, I think you're over thinking this. If it's a mexican restaurant and he hates mexican food, then sure, you're being unreasonable. But if it's just not his favourite but he's happy to go along because you're craving something, then it's fine.

We all compromise all the time.

We go out for dinner loads usually to places we both like that’s why I’m overthinking it! Not anyone’s birrhday

so you’re saying as a one off with you going out loads - ok to go somewhere you’re craving that he is ambivalent about?

Heavens Op…

it’s a shame your DH has even unintentionally made you wonder this

out of nosiness

what cuisine are you craving?

He absolutely hasn’t. I’m posting because if the tables were turned, I wouldn’t want to go anywhere I was meh about and spend money on it. I’d probably be really vocal about it too

That reflects kind of badly on you if you’d make it clear you weren’t happy going somewhere your pregnant partner had a craving for 🤷

I’d either go on my own or find someone else to go with.
Being pregnant is not a good reason to go somewhere for dinner that only one of you is really into when you have other choices and go out to eat regularly!
What are you craving? I craved ice, dishwasher tablets and wet plaster (building material, not a soggy blood stained rag 😂). Missed out on some seriously good stuff!

OP literally said He suggested we can go there if I want so I'm not sure why posters are saying he needs to suck it up etc. He's already said they can go

My husband wouldn’t give it a second thought and we would go.

I can’t believe people make posts about this kind of stuff!

Well he is clearly kinder and more flexible and able to compromise than you. So go.

because the OP has started a thread about it which would indicate she may suspect he’s just saying that

My DH did whatever he could to help satisfy my pregnancy cravings as it was one of the few ways he could feel like an active part in the pregnancy. We ate a lot of burritos and he bought me a lot of apple pies from McDonald's, but also crunchy lettuce and lemons 🙃

ironically the Op said she would be bothered and make it clear to her pregnant partner if roles reversed!!

I bet if you were to ask the restaurant they would do the item as takeaway for you. I don't know any restaurant that wouldn't do this.

How has he made her do this? Why is he being blamed.?

Not even if, for example, he'd been really ill, unable to eat much, but felt he could eat a particular dish from one particular place? You wouldn't want him to eat something he fancies?

You're growing a baby and you fancy this one dish. He wants you to have this dish, even though he's a bit meh about the food. He's doing a nice thing, like I'm sure you would, if the roles were reversed.

Buy a magazine. Go for lunch on your own. Fill your boots.

Yes, it's absolutely fine if it isn't a special occasion for him, or if it's not the only time you ever go out together. If you eat out with reasonable frequency, of course it's fine to prioritise yourself sometimes!

Can’t judge until I know what the food is?!

Yes I want to know what it is too!

But yes, just go