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Disgusting wedding photos

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inthelight44 · 09/06/2024 22:05

Just received my wedding photos and I’m so upset. The composition of the pictures is lovely - the backgrounds are beautiful and the colours are nice, but all the photographs have been taken from low down, giving me an awful double chin. There are two photos I like - both taken from a normal angle, but for the rest, the photographer crouched down and I have about 5 chins and my hair looked so flat.

I know it’s silly and there’s nothing I can do now, but why didn’t the photographer think of this? So upset.

OP posts:
DBD1975 · 15/06/2024 18:15

Why don't you just get the photographer to 'enhance' the images and remove your double chin, this should be very easy for them to do.

Aquablast54 · 15/06/2024 18:22

😂😂 Double chin 😂😂 Be greatful

Aquablast54 · 15/06/2024 18:24

😂😂 Double chin omg don't be so vain! 😂

SameAsItEverWas24 · 15/06/2024 18:35

Oh gosh, I'm so sorry. No-one ever takes decent photos of me. I know how to take photos so I would expect a paid professional to do it. My wedding we had a friend do it (for free) and he got the angles all wrong. A few from above where I look like a dwarf and no one thought to angle me so the best side of my sari was visible (the beautiful waterfall drape). I was surrounded by idiots that day though. I've got a few photos I really like and they've been framed. The rest are in a drawer. Do consider a new shoot or ask for the other shots. Also, a refund. I decided not to demand a refund from hair and make up when she slicked my "beehive" flat on my head. I regret that.

SameAsItEverWas24 · 15/06/2024 18:37

Wishingitwaswinter · 12/06/2024 14:37

Most people view previous work and tell their photographer exactly what photos they want. You're nit supposed to actually leave it up to the photographer just to click away and take photos, and you should have seen him low down and knew what the photo was going to look like.

A bride can't be directing the photographer on her WEDDING DAY. He's the one who can see through the viewfinder and should know his job

SameAsItEverWas24 · 15/06/2024 18:39

ranchdressing · 10/06/2024 08:46

Social media has really killed our self image and created a wide gap between expectation and reality.

  1. If you really don't like the photos, just put them away, you'll get them back out in 30 years and feel differently. Hopefully you've been able to capture the feel of the day and your most important guests.
  1. Organise another photo shoot just for you and your husband, with a different photographer. Get dressed back up in the wedding outfits if you want - or whatever is comfortable and makes you feel good. The important thing is to have pictures of you that represent you newly married. Is there a specific motivation e.g. putting them on social media, printing them out for your home etc? Tailor it for that.

Note for future brides: Always book a pre-wedding shoot with your photographer. If you can, before paying the full deposit. It means you can get comfortable with them, understand what poses work and don't before the stress of the wedding day and give constructive feedback. You don't have do anything with the photos if you don't want to.

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The pre wedding shoot is a very sound idea. Wish we'd done that....

GhostMum · 15/06/2024 18:48

I am a photographer. A good photographer is aware of angles and how they flatter (or don’t). I would want my client to let me know if they’re not happy. The images you’ve been sent are the ones the photographer thinks are best, but there will be more photos that didn’t make the edit that s/he can go through and hopefully find ones you feel better about.

SameAsItEverWas24 · 15/06/2024 18:50

Alwayswonderedwhy · 10/06/2024 07:07

Did your look at their previous work or discuss the style you wanted before the wedding? Any decent professional photographer would've discussed what you wanted.

The difficulty with this is most people are unlikely to know to specify angles or say "don't make me look fat". It doesn't occur to a couple that a professional would do that.

SameAsItEverWas24 · 15/06/2024 18:57

NewName24 · 10/06/2024 17:04

It's got nothing to do with 'micromanaging'.
I would have though everyone would notice (as you are looking at the photographer for most of the photos) if (s)he were crouching on the ground all the time.

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I take photos for a living and I didn't notice the crappy angles either. I was THE BRIDE.

CatA27 · 15/06/2024 22:19

I hated most of my wedding pics, but now, 30 years down the line there are 2 that have ever actually been on show, so if you have a couple then go with those, no one else other than you (and maybe your parents or grandparents) will have your photos on display 😉

Teddybear23 · 15/06/2024 23:20

This happened at my son’s wedding. The photographer took photos from the bottom of some steps with us at the top so not only did we all have double chins the camera was looking up our noses!! I would feel the same 😢

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