Disgusting wedding photos

[inthelight44]

Just received my wedding photos and I’m so upset. The composition of the pictures is lovely - the backgrounds are beautiful and the colours are nice, but all the photographs have been taken from low down, giving me an awful double chin. There are two photos I like - both taken from a normal angle, but for the rest, the photographer crouched down and I have about 5 chins and my hair looked so flat.

I know it’s silly and there’s nothing I can do now, but why didn’t the photographer think of this? So upset.

@BeyondMyWits @RedYellowPinkGreenPurpleOrangeBlue I went to one of those last May too! It seems they are becoming more common. Felt like the guests were there as props for the photos and not to enjoy themselves. The wedding party was gone for - and I'm not exaggerating - a good 2 hours, taking those awful stages group pics in various arrangements. Then, the photographers were constantly faffing with tripods and lights to get some good 'candid' ones, trying to rearrange people into and out of shots. It was a shit wedding.

I was thinking it would be a Small Claims Court job which is inexpensive.

But that wasn't my point, my point was that a wife does not need her husband's "permission". I meant generally, not in relation just to this.

I was disappointed with my photographs too. Some that I wanted to get there wasn’t time for and there are some absolute shockers of me that are so unflattering. They are easier to look at now than they were two years ago but I still have to be brave to get my head round them.

There were much better photos of me taken at a friends wedding where I was part of the bridal party.

Of course she doesn’t, but in this case it seems to be more of a ‘talking someone out of doing something ridiculous’ situation rather than a controlling man telling his wife what to do.

Didnt' mean to be 'catty' at all. We are used to seeing magazine photos, and we all want to look like them. But if one does not have a perfect chin, or perfect upper arms, or ... whatever- then we are going to be disappointed. Because few of us are perfect like those models. Would therefore be a good idea in advance to say to photographer that we have an issue with our chin or upper arms, or ... whatever, and ask for photographer to take this very carefully into account. Even a good photographer can't make us be like those models.

The photographer should have known it's not a very flattering angle, even I know that and no-one pays me to take photos. I'd be furious if there were too many like that.

Most people are usually disappointed with their wedding photos, I think there’s high expectation. I got married abroad and when my photos came back I wasn’t that overly impressed with them, the photographer had missed some great shots and got us to post in some strange ways however, I realised I only needed to like at least one and I do, most people who see my photos say how lovely they are, they are beach photos and bright and sunny, but I never point out why I’m not keen…although I like them much more 10 years on.

I hated my photos when I first saw them but they grew on me lots to the point that I'm not sure why I hated them. I love them now but perhaps they're becoming a little out of date 😒.

People, especially brides, just can not be objective about their wedding photos IME. Mine from my summer 2023 wedding have been used online and in print for promotion by 7 different businesses, including our venue (there's even a bloody wedding picture of us on a poster in our local GP's office
). Am i validated by this? No. I am not. I keep looking at them and thinking 'I am not sure about this angle, and my dress has slipped a bit there, oh I wish he's got x,y and z' - every other single person, including DH, has said they are brilliant but I just can't zoom out. If I was OP I'd be trying to get some opinions from others about them before taking action...

Agree with this.

If he has 'changed his style' or if he has not taking photos a variety of ways, especially of the bride/groom, then I would be quite unhappy and want my money back.

I really think op that this is on you, you really should have made sure you knew what to look for when they were taking photos, better still you should have looked at each photo after they were taken and given your critic. you had all day! 🙄

now in all seriousness I bet they look much better than your think and you look lovely. But pls speak to the photographer and sask what else they have.

It's got nothing to do with 'micromanaging'.
I would have though everyone would notice (as you are looking at the photographer for most of the photos) if (s)he were crouching on the ground all the time.

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I honestly wouldn’t have and a) I get complimented on my flattering photos and b) I was a bit of a bridezilla in terms of the depth in which I spoke to suppliers about what we wanted. I found my wedding day total sensory overload and didn’t have a moment to think about something like this.

They’re a professional, you would assume they knew what they’re doing and if you’re not a photographer it probably wouldn’t even cross your mind to question why he was crouching if you even noticed at all, most people aren’t used to having professional photographs taken regularly enough to notice things like that.

Ask around all your friends and family to see what photos they took. I bet you'll find some lovely ones of you. .... and congratulations!

Please do not feel bad about your appearance. I went to Bali for my daughter’s wedding my hairdresser had gone mad on my very fine hair it was so short and humidity made it worse. She wouldn’t let me wear a headband I had bought or long earings that matched my dress. We were not getting on well and I avoided most of the photos in the ones I had to be in I looked awful flat hair no decoration and grim. Ironically I had lost weight before the wedding and it made me look even worse lol. Don’t worry about it you were there that’s what matters and no one looks at wedding photos after a while I only look at the nice ones of everyone else daughter and I now have a better relationship.

Oh that's such a bummer! I get it, as we paid a lot to a professional and honestly I don't like the majority of the photos! I don't know that there is any legit recourse as the day is over and done. What we plan to do, eventually, is go do a re-take with another photographer. Same outfits - hair and makeup will be different but I'm okay with that - just a more relaxed/fun less time rushed environment with a backdrop that I know will offer neat photos. Also since it will be much less rushed, I'll be able to look at the photos as we go. I'd recommend the same. It doesn't have to be overly expensive.

Oh OP I’m so sorry. My photos were horrid too, our photographer seem to forget I even had a family! Once we got to the venue he stayed in one room with Ohs friends and PIL despite knowing there were 2 other rooms. I have no photos of my mum and dad who have since passed away, none of my friends, nothing at all. It was the o oh thing DH was organising. I’ll never have wedding photos I will cherish and that’s just shit. Ask nearest and dearest to go to a nice location and see if you can get someone to take some extra pics of you all xx

Can the two of you dress up again just to get some better photos of you as a couple? (with a better photographer!)

Sorry my previous post thought you were a guest. I didn’t like my professional pics those my friends took were much nicer. My video was terrible but I was so excited I didn’t notice and paid. One of my photos was used in their ad in a brandy balloon long time ago yuk. Don’t worry pick the best forget about the rest sure you looked beautiful.

This is awful. I had the same experience at my daughter’s christening. They just don’t care. I asked guests for any photos taken and there were some beautiful ones. Thank goodness for friends!

Id ask to see more photos and see if you can find more you like

you only need a few that you actively like.

from mine I picked my favourite three which are up in the living room. I had hundreds but I only see these three as I never get the album out.

most people do the same I think

Also not sure how comfortable I would feel stopping the photographer in front of a whole heap of wedding guests to say “excuse me but would you mind shooting from another angle so my double chin doesn’t show ” 😂

It's so upsetting.

Our wedding photos were back in the days of film and print. Our photographer said she only took 30 photos because there was "never a bad one".

They were all hideous. My husband and I were quite photogenic in our youth, but she made us look like village idiots, with weird expressions and teeth and dopey looking eyes. I'd it hasn't been so expensive I would have laughed, but we had completely blown our budget to get the best photographer.

The proofs album remains buried in the basement, collecting dust. I never even got her to make the album, because I couldn't even find a handful of shots that were any good.

Relatives got copies of their films for us and it worked out okay. But there isn't one decent photo of me on our wedding day looking happy. 😕

Were still married though, 25 years later! I guess it wasn't that important. After the initial disappointment, chalk it down to experience.