Carole Middleton's sacrifices for Kate during childhood?

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https://www.womanandhome.com/life/royal-news/carole-michael-middleton-sacrifice-kate/

Aibu to think that every parent would do the same for their child?
Aibu to think this is normal parenting?
Aibu to think that Carole & Michael gave their kids the skills during childhood to seamlessly fit into the elite world as teens?

I've never been to a school sports day.. Not allowed the time off in my job. I was working though. It's kind of a reverse Middleton- I sacrificed seeing them trot along a field, so I could pay the mortgage and ensure that other people's kids got taught.
Shit, I've actually sacrificed a lot of family time, so that I can help other people's kids. Especially those who don't get a lot of family support themselves. I'm doing it wrong. I need to be more Middleton.

I disagree, Kate appreciates that her parents attended her events which is great but I don’t doubt that your children will appreciate you for something else you’ve done for them which maybe Kate never had.

A good parent, is a good parent & that will manifest in a whole manner of different ways.

You're missing the 'Royal Washing' - Kate could have been down the mines in Siberia and "was happy so there was never any need for her to feel aggrieved & think about alternatives."

Who do you think "they" could possibly be? Think carefully about who the thread is about, it might give you a clue...

Privilege knows no bounds 🙄

It's nice that Kate appreciates her parents but I think she could have used a different word than sacrifice.

Parents don't sacrifice their spare time, it's done willingly. Providing they are able to, of course, and are not working three jobs trying to make ends meet. Those parents really are making sacrifices - i.e. time with their dc in order to pay for family necessities. If your kids are at boarding school, you have loads of spare time when you're not actively parenting pr doing household chores, from which to find an hour here or there to cheer your child on at lacrosse or horse riding. Most parents have to juggle sports days with 9-5 jobs and doing all the household chores and life admin.

I have nothing against Kate, she seems perfectly lovely and her family seems equally lovely. I'm sure she had a great upbringing. But I think her privilege speaks volumes.

Did Kate say it, or is it some puff piece by ' friends' which normally means some made up load if nonsense.

Do we actually care?

Completely agree.

Yet you can be bothered to tell the poster, you can't be bothered.

I do not see sacrifices in this story. As a councillor I know parents who it less so that their children can have a proper meal.

She had a lucky life but I am happy for her. My mother never bothered much with me (we were cleaned and fed) but emotionally unstable parents ruined my life inside. I’m glad that not everyone is brought up like that. I’m sure every person has some crap to deal with and it’s all relative in the end.

Do you see CM as a role model? Going on tour around around Australia and New Zealand with the grandchildren she sounds so selfless.

I agree Maray1967. Few grandparents actually help.

My own parents’ version of “helping” when my daughter was born was to come and visit and sit back expecting to be waited on hand and foot. A lot of my friends and colleagues had similar experiences, the big contrast being my SIL’s Mum who was incredibly hands on.

It has always struck me that Carol Middleton has been a fantastic force behind her children (Mike too) and I do think they are all where they are today thanks to their parents.,

If the things you read about Mrs Middleton are true then it is Catherine who made the sacrifices. She could have eschewed all the social climbing, fallen in love with someone lower down the social scale and lived a quiet middle class life.

I think you are slightly unreasonable OP because of your assumption most parents would do these things. We all know there are many parents who are not that interested in parenting their own children, especially absent dads. It’s great that many parents provide a loving environment offering different experiences and activities but availability to finances and appropriate resources locally also play into this ideal Kate alluded to.
I think love and a developed sense of family values are more important than if mum and dad can make it to sports day each time.
Of course Kate ensures there is a glossy picture of her parents and childhood, it all falls in with the image she needs to portray and with her determination to bring her family more closely into the royal fold. Let’s not forget her parents company went bankrupt leaving many people unpaid so perhaps their focus should have been more there, especially as Kate has a full time nanny and staff to help. Her parents finances and status have been elevated beyond measure with this marriage so I could not call her mother’s help that extraordinary. It is however developing a strong family bond which Kate is right to appreciate.
So you are not wrong to think all parents ideally should have involved, loving parents and grandparents.

Sounds like normal middle class parenting. Parents had the time to turn up to sporting events at very posh private school. It’s hardly a sacrifice.
Sacrifice for your child is going without food so they eat, working long shifts to pay the bills. I doubt the Middletons know what sacrifice is though I’m sure they’re nice people and love their children and grandchildren.

Presumably that was a rare occasion, not a weekly occurrence!!

I don’t mind who the person is, I’m impressed when grandparents get stuck in. It didn’t t happen in our case.

I hope the message to Kate growing up wasn't completely 'we are doing all this for YOU' when it's fair to say quite a lot of it has benefited all the family in many ways. And perhaps Carole has also lived quite vicariously through her daughters.

Carole isn't royal & never will be!

Thanks for your honesty. I have told mine the same. Work hard in school, get a good education & career, then marry a wealthy man! Wish Carole could write a book, she could be a mentor on the subject 😂

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c2qql1wk794o

Spare a thought for poor Rishi Sunak who's parebt sacrificed Sky TV for him to go to private school 😂😂

Her parents are amazing - I don't know a single parent who would organise and lay a siege for their daughter which would lead to such stellar success! Carol in particular - she should be put in charge of strategic planning of something important at the government level in the UK.

My DP never turned up at any of my sporting events, even though I competed at County level and later, took part in British Championships, and they went on holidays without us, leaving all their DC in the care of an Aunt (not staying over) and the oldest DC aged 14 (younger DC being between 6 and 11) at the start - doing this for three years on the trot.
They also discouraged activities that cost money, using the excuse that some of the activities we had tried didn’t last (because being free, they were shite), but they were “pillars of the local community, so that was OK.
Good on Katherine for appreciating the effort her parents put in to do what was best for their kids: not all parents have always been that committed!