sport, sport and more ruddy sport

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My husband (of 20+years) today has watched horse racing, the rugby and now cricket.
He is playing golf all day tomorrow.
I have suggested watching a film this evening or something together.
He has streamed the cricket on his 'phone and said, "you watch what you want, I'm watching the cricket'.
Am I unreasonable to just want a couple of hours sport free and undivided with my husband?

Probably not the answer you want but surely if you want to watch a film you don't need your DH sat beside you? He's not stopping you from watching the film or monopolising the tv? My DH & I have very different tastes in tv viewing and I loathe having to sit through something he suggests. I never see it as the duty of one spouse to 'entertain' the other.

My DH loves watching (& playing) sport ... I am grateful he has hobbies and interests ... a close friend has a DH who won't do anything without her and just hangs around all the time (even joined us at a spa day once!).

I agree with the above ...sorry

Is he not watching the tennis?!? 🎾😂

Euros start next week and then it's the Olympics. Sort yourself out an itinerary of stuff you want to watch that he won't if he is a sports fan.

Grand Prix here

I hear you. However, surely a 2 hour sport free window with your husband over an entire weekend would be reasonable?
Surely??

If it's what you both want?

Wimbledon is starting soon (also Roland Garros mens final tomorrow) 😅

But we don't both want - isn't that the point?

Darts and tennis here today it's been amazing 🎯 🎾

Roll on the Euros ⚽️❤️

We watch separate tellys, I have the one downstairs and DH watches sports upstairs, I don't need him next to me to watch a film or series. I see DH plenty anyway

Well you can't force him to want to watch some film!

Once the season is over he may want to watch films, who knows

It doesn't sound like OP does.

OP do you both do things together that don't involve screens? Watching a film after watching hours of sport, he'll end up with square eyes!

I couldn’t live like that. Vacuous shite.

It's not about a film!! It's maybe not spending 20hours every weekend watching sport...crazy, apparently, to maybe carve out some time for something other than sport.
Don't think it's a completely radical notion.

I do like watching a film with my DH unlike all these independent PPs who don't need their DHs sitting beside them. I don't think it is too much to ask OP.

Me too but I don't think that's even really the issue here. PP are focusing on the watching a film bit and not on the fact that he's done nothing else all day and they're not spending any time doing anything together, all day.

DH likes watching sport, but on a Friday or Saturday evening, unless it’s some vital event, he’ll usually check with me whether I’m happy with him sitting on the sofa and watching sport, or if I’d like to do something together.
Give and take, no?

OP if your DH was out all day on both Saturday and Sunday playing golf or some other sport you'd be told YANBU. Because he's physically in the house for one of those days people are piling on as if it should be fine.

I disagree. He is just as unavailable when he's watching sport as he would be if he was playing. I'm guessing that as well as not sparing you a few hours of his valuable sport watching time he doesn't do anything in the house either. And that it's not just weekends but evenings too. So you get all the housework and the mental load too.

Nope. You need to make a life for yourself that you find fulfilling. With or without him that's up to you but I know which way I'd go. You're pretty much on your own in this relationship anyway.

Watching a film for a couple of hours is no different to watching sport, it’s just you deciding what you like to watch which is fine, just watch the film whilst your DH watches sport.
Honestly one of the things I love about my ex leaving is that I can now watch as much football as I want without his eye rolling and sighing. He would ask me to watch something with him, it wasn’t that I didn’t want to spend time with him we just had different opinions on what we enjoyed watching.

It is fascinating - I think most of the replies are from people who are focused on the defence of an interest in sport.
If I'd posted that he spends 10 hours a day watching QVC I suspect it would have been different.
I do enjoy sport and have lots of interests myself. I guess my point is that surely being in a partnership might mean balancing time and interests? Appreciate your reply and insight.

Husband gets on with it. I get to watch my 'vacuous shit' as does he.

DH will watch footy, cricket, tennis, darts…. most things! Only sports he doesn’t really follow are rugby and golf.

But he picks the bits he particularly wants to see and also spends time with me and/or the kids. Maybe he’ll have radio on while we’re doing something else.

It’s got to be a bit balanced, surely.