sport, sport and more ruddy sport

[emsworth]

My husband (of 20+years) today has watched horse racing, the rugby and now cricket.
He is playing golf all day tomorrow.
I have suggested watching a film this evening or something together.
He has streamed the cricket on his 'phone and said, "you watch what you want, I'm watching the cricket'.
Am I unreasonable to just want a couple of hours sport free and undivided with my husband?

Can you not watch the sport with him? Is there something you want to do that isn't watching TV?

I made sure to marry a man who disliked watching sport even more than I do.

I agree w PP who said you’d be getting different replies if he were out of the house . I’m with you: it’s about how he is choosing to spend his time (which is a limited resource) and is not prioritising quality time with you. Perhaps tho he doesn’t see that watching a film with you is quality time: could you do something else together? Then he could watch sport and you could watch a film afterwards.

The thing is sport is live, films aren't.
So while I do get annoyed if OH is focused on sport at expense of say a meal out or visitors etc, expecting him to not watch live sport so we can watch a film together is a bit pointless.

Sport isn't the issue - the issue is you want him to stop doing something he loves just to sit there and do something he doesn't.

If you want quality time together then you need to talk to him about that, but asking him to swap a game for a film probably isn't the way to go.

I don't think it's unreasonable to want your life partner to do something enjoyable together. Otherwise what's the bloody point, you might as well not be married. The OP used a film as an example, everyone seems fixated on that. It's not about her DH "entertaining" her, it's about spending quality time together and respecting the fact you are in a relationship - which last time I checked is a shared existence and consists of many compromises.

I had the cricket on the tv yesterday , it was a big game. Dp was half watching and half watching Netflix on his tablet. Both perfectly OK with that.

I think people are fixating on the film because it's not exactly the best example of quality time.

I've got into the Tour de France the last few years as well (despite not having ridden a bike since the 90's!) so thats another one to add. What a summer! Always interesting re the Olympics as to what sports we become an expert in for just a fortnight!