To not want sex when DC is in the room?

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That’s fucked up - isn’t it? I feel like it is at least.

we are on holiday all sharing a room and our 9 yo DC is sleeping in the bed next to ours. Sorry to be crude but my DH started fingering me last night, which presumably he wanted to lead to sex. But our DC was lying asleep like 2 metres away. AIBU to have insisted he stop?

YABU - I see no issue with it and would have let DH carry on

YANBU - No, to carry on would have been all kids of weird

Eugh that is disgusting of him, he needs to get that out of his head for the week or two. Holidays are for family and not sexy time. You need to find more activities if he’s that bored.

I was an abused child, who had this happen to me.

I'll never understand 'parents', who think their sexual gratification is more important than not abusing their child. Says a lot about someone who has no trouble subjecting a child to their sex life, sleeping or otherwise.

If they're sleeping though, they're not abused, because they won't even know.

I think it's abusive if they do it knowing, or not caring if you are listening but not if it happens by accident. I don't think it's abusive, for example, if a child walks in on it because parents didn't lock door at 2am but child had a nightmare and came looking. As long as the parents stop!!

But the thing here is, 2m away is not reasonable to expect that your child might not wake up and hear. It's probably 50:50 they would so its not right to do it. But I don't think it's dreadfully wrong, I think he'll understand once you point it out.

Not sure bathroom would be much better though, going by most hotel rooms.

I could not get sexually turned on with a nine year old in the room, doesn’t matter if they are asleep, and I feel a bit queasy thinking that he can tbh.

It would make me feel very disturbed and ill if my DH tried that and I wouldn't be able to think or look at him the same way.

I also read it as @Catsmere did even though op has since clarified.