I am 36 years old and 37 weeks pregnant (first time), and had a pretty difficult pregnancy with Hyperemesis, hypertension, a stressful job and a house move.
About 2 months ago my two best friends messaged me and asked for a list of names so they could organise me a baby shower. I hadn’t been expecting anything like that, but was really happy they had offered. With the house move and saving for maternity leave I explained I don’t have a lot of money, but would help where I can. I’ve organised a few before for friends and know how it can be a herding cats/costly type situation sometimes! I gave them some weekends I knew I was free, and basically said I wasn’t bothered about anything fancy, I just wanted to see everyone before I became a Mum, and do something to mark the occasion.
They both have busy lives with families of their own, and they said that if they couldn’t get everyone together, then the three of us would go out for afternoon tea closer to my due date. Which I was again more than happy about.
Anyway, fast forward to now. Ive just finished work and I’m on my first week of maternity leave, and I have been in and out of hospital due to the pregnancy induced hypertension. I’ve still been trying to get out and about and enjoy my last few weeks of being able to do this. However, I haven’t heard anything about a baby shower, or a get together since they asked for names. This weekend (as in tomorrow is Saturday) is the last of the possible dates I have them, and I’ve not been told about anything (not even in a secretive “it’s a surprise” way).
They haven’t mentioned a thing to me. I saw one of them yesterday (Thursday), and I had made plans to see one of them today (Friday), but unfortunately I’ve had to cancel due to another appointment being moved. I’ve now rescheduled with her for Sunday - which is the last date I gave them to have the baby shower.
Truth is, I am sad that nothing has been organised. I asked my Mum if she had been contacted about a baby shower and she told me she hadn’t heard anything. I really don’t want to ask them, as I am pretty sure nothing has been arranged and I know I will be gutted if that’s the case. Am I being unreasonable to be so upset? I never thought I’d have one in the first place, so it’s not like I’m missing out on something I expected I was going to get. I just think my hopes were kind of raised about having one, and now I’m in a situation where I don’t want to make things awkward by asking about it and seeming ungrateful.
Just wanting a sense check!