Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To wonder what the ban on smartphones across 17 schools in South London will acheive.

243 replies

ThatMother2024 · 06/06/2024 21:07

The Guardian reports that 17 schools are uniting to ban smartphones. I have no idea what this is expected to acheive, what the evidence base is and whether kids will just devise some easy workaround.

OP posts:
Morningcrows · 07/06/2024 05:53

ThatMother2024 · 06/06/2024 21:54

Do they do this? Is their evidence that they do this? I don’t work in a secondary school. I have never seen stats or data on this.

You only have to work in a school to know that they have to deal with this sort of thing all the time. I think all teachers would support a ban.

N4ish · 07/06/2024 05:55

Needmorelego · 06/06/2024 23:42

@Parker231 but why can't schools have the simple "out of sight and switched off" rule?

They have this rule but it’s meaningless in practice. Kids are using phones constantly during the school days and it’s impossible for teachers to police.

N4ish · 07/06/2024 05:57

Invisimamma · 06/06/2024 23:33

Ridiculous. Smart phones are just part of life now. My ds uses his daily for his school bus pass, his cash card to pay for his lunch and his gym membership. All stored on the phone. Also to keep in touch with me if he's going somewhere else after school, needs a lift or whatever.

They shouldn't have phones in class and they shouldn't be heard or seen in school, but outside, school shouldn't have control over that. They're a vital piece of equipment.

Nobody suggested schools should control what happens with phones at homes. This proposal is about banning phone use in school during the school day.

Swingingvvoter · 07/06/2024 05:57

@Needmorelego

Because unless the phones are totally removed or threatened and followed up with confiscated on sight, it's impossible to police.
As soon as they are told to put them away, they wait for the teacher to do something else and they are out again.
School staff have enough to do without being phone monitor.
An outright legal ban in our education system is what's needed in law. Zero phones in class.
By all means use them in the way in and out but zero tolerance in class.

Morningcrows · 07/06/2024 06:19

astonssandboxisalittertray · 06/06/2024 22:25

My kids both take their phones to school. (2 different schools). One has a no phones policy, the other provides a pouch which is locked during school time.

There were issues when kids initially got their phones in year 6 (recommended by school as they transition to walking home without parents - London) and kids wrote silly things on WhatsApp or made tiktoks even though they are too young to have the app. Plenty of lessons and talks in school when these things happened and as a result, we've had no issues at all with phone use at secondary school.

My kids travel a long distance to school so need it for when buses/trains don't go to plan. They look at them during the 'sit down' part of their commute and for about an hour in the evenings (child 2 hasn't looked at all tonight as they've gone from homework to sport to shower to bed). I don't begrudge screen time when they rise at 6.15, get home at 6 after a sports match, then do homework and sometimes more sport training before shower and bed. If kids are kept busy then the phone use is limited, functional (eg: meeting up) and regulates to use that of normal for an adult.

I'm baffled as to all of the poor school behaviours listed in the quote. I guess that's a sign of the times in some schools. It's not a phone problem, it's a behaviour problem.

Edited

Have you checked your children's phones? You might be surprised. Check the photos and check what time messages are sent on all social media.

Even really well behaved kids are prolific phone users, believe me. It's not a question of well behaved and busy. It's addiction.

notbelieved · 07/06/2024 06:26

There is no valid reason to have a smartphone at school

None at all? Type 1 diabetics use them to help manage their condition. That's a valid reason.

Morningcrows · 07/06/2024 06:37

ASimpleLampoon · 07/06/2024 00:09

Schools are in a weak position to ban smartphones outright if they also:

Insist parents can only pay for school lunches / trips etc on an app - no cash accepted.

Only do virtual parent evenings

Insist absences must be reported on an app.

Certain homework is done and submitted over an app.

If schools want to be smartphone free then can't households also demand this and refuse to comply with the above?

This is like saying if children can't drink alcohol, we should ban adults too.

Mabelface · 07/06/2024 06:52

ThatMother2024 · 06/06/2024 22:09

Thank you for the acerbic remark.

Don't worry, they misspelt focused and used less instead of fewer 😉

Jellycatspyjamas · 07/06/2024 06:58

Undoubtedly some kids are more sucked into this than others. And I know some parents who possibly have superior parenting skills (or kids far less invested) may not see a problem, but I'm curious if anyone else would be relieved if schools encouraged families to sign up to just never getting the blasted things?

I don’t think it’s the schools responsibility to contract with parents what happens in their homes. It’s an abdication of responsibility on the parents part and massive overreach by schools. I’m surprised how much power parents want to hand over to school.

As far as phone use goes, my DDs phone is blocked between 9.00 and 3.30, she can use it on the way to and from school but not during school hours. If there comes a point when she needs a particular feature or app during school hours I can open just that app. I can also unblock the phone remotely if need be.

There are lots of different parental control programmes out there, there is no need for kids to have unfettered access to phones at school but I suspect parents would rather the school fought with their kids than parents set clear boundaries themselves.

Londonrach1 · 07/06/2024 07:02

They banned in schools anyway or at least the ones in my area. Phones are handed in at the beginning of the day. Very Good policy. The amount of bullying using phones is awful. So glad I grow up before smart phones. My niece and nephew are at the smartphone secondary age and tbh they now not as interested in phones due to a bullying situation

MrsToothyBitch · 07/06/2024 07:19

I think a ban in schools is a good idea. My worries would be if I had children who need the apps for commuting or especially if I had a child who was using a medical device that matched to their phone. There would be work arounds and alternative plans can be made but this is one function of smart tech that is truly helpful. I'd have liked a period tracker as a teen although otherwise I didn't need a phone beyond basic calls and texts!

My other worry is that actually, the things we are trying to avoid are all pervasive. I also went to school in the noughties. Phones weren't as smart as they are now but everyone used their laptop or pc for social media. We used msn in lieu of WhatsApp and people had MP3s. MSN and social media sites still caused mayhem. We knew which proxy sites would get us onto our Facebook profiles on school computers. People texted on the way home and then hopped online. These technologies still exist, they'll just be rediscovered and evolve into their next form - including being compatible with wireless headphones. I would support a ban on smart tech / social media for u16s though. As long as we accept that some people will always try to find ways round it and actually put measures in place to tackle it.

Can we also take laptops out of classrooms? A pp mentioned kids using them for youtube etc. I remember someone using one to game during a suprisingly intimate uni class and somehow not getting detected. For the majority of children who don't have any need to type in lieu of write, why are these needed? Would classrooms be better reverting back to pen and paper?

LePetitMarseillias · 07/06/2024 07:21

God i wish the'd ban them everywhere!

Nurber · 07/06/2024 07:36

AmpleFatball · 07/06/2024 02:48

Fewer spelling mistakes.

Clearly too much time on my phone.

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 07/06/2024 07:37

ThatMother2024 · 06/06/2024 21:54

Do they do this? Is their evidence that they do this? I don’t work in a secondary school. I have never seen stats or data on this.

You don’t need a gold plated 5* study for everything in life. This is common sense.

notbelieved · 07/06/2024 07:38

My worries would be if I had children who need the apps for commuting or especially if I had a child who was using a medical device that matched to their phone. There would be work arounds and alternative plans can be made but this is one function of smart tech that is truly helpful

there is no ‘work around’. The technology works. To not allow a child to use the technology would amount to disability discrimination. For this reason alone smartphones cannot be blanket banned in education.

Smitherss · 07/06/2024 07:39

I have a sim card called Parent Shield. I can auto cut her phone off during school hours. They can only make emergency calls or call parents from it. Internet, texts, and calls are all blocked. It's more a parents job to manage this.

saraclara · 07/06/2024 07:42

Nurber · 06/06/2024 21:58

I imagine it would achieve more focussed learners and therefore less spelling mistakes.

Fewer spelling mistakes

AlpineMuesli · 07/06/2024 07:55

Many things are supposedly “impossible to police”, and yet we choose to make the rule against them anyway.

Because it’s the right thing to do.

Doing the right thing is often difficult, and that’s no excuse for not trying.

Validus · 07/06/2024 07:59

I’ve gone for a halfway house. I am ‘lending’ DD1 my old iPhone. The one with a cracked screen and rubbish battery.

I went to the Apple Store and they helped me set it all up so that I control her phone. I control when it can be used, what apps she can download, etc. And all possible parental filters are applied. Needless to say, it’s very limited and impossible to use in school time.

The data allowance is also very small, so it will only take one time of running out before she works out that accessing internet has a cost.

It’s also still ‘my’ phone, and the rule is that I can look at anything on it, at any time, and if I find something wrong - the phone privileges are lost.

It’s a good compromise. I can give her much more freedom now, but the training wheels are definitely on.

Jellycatspyjamas · 07/06/2024 08:25

I think that’s the thing @Validus kids need to learn how to use phones and internet access responsibly. That means parental controls and difficult conversations and accepting life might be more tricky at times when kids get their phones removed for poor behaviour.

My DD knows I’ll look at her phone at random times, we have conversations about what’s happening in group chats etc and she knows it’ll be removed if I find anything out of order. She doesn’t have Snapchat or discord and if that means she’s out of step with her friends then so be it.

It’s not a case of all or nothing, there’s no other area in life we give kids access to something without teaching them how to use it and increasing their access as they learn, why would it be different with a smart phone.

StillCreatingAName · 07/06/2024 08:26

ASimpleLampoon · 07/06/2024 00:09

Schools are in a weak position to ban smartphones outright if they also:

Insist parents can only pay for school lunches / trips etc on an app - no cash accepted.

Only do virtual parent evenings

Insist absences must be reported on an app.

Certain homework is done and submitted over an app.

If schools want to be smartphone free then can't households also demand this and refuse to comply with the above?

This is all adult administration. Parents can use all those apps and apps are available on other devices. No need for young children to have any of those apps on a smartphone. The exception is submitting homework on an app, it shouldn’t be the only mechanism as it excludes families who can’t afford additional devices at home.

AnneElliott · 07/06/2024 08:33

Needmorelego · 06/06/2024 21:22

Most of them will probably just have them switched off at the bottom of their bag to use as soon as they walk out the gate.
Which is pretty much the rule many schools have - "no see, no hear".

Yes I agree with that. DS school had 'off and away' and if a phone was seen then it was confiscated and the parent had to turn up and collect it. But it meant they could use them on the way home.

User135644 · 07/06/2024 08:42

Luminousalumnus · 06/06/2024 23:00

DS school did this some years ago for a year or so. Kids with a long journey to school could leave phones at reception. About 200. Bloody chaos for all concerned. Some hid them in bushes at the edge of the grounds leading to dubious types hanging about to steal them and generally intimidate. DS left his with his grandparents who lived a couple of doors away and pretty soon about 20 other kids did this too. Other neighbours apparently wanted to charge to look after phones! And of course the worst offenders just carried on taking them into school. Oh and burner phones. Anyway it was unpolicable, so it was dropped. I mean it was a terrible school, but no way NO WAY were those kids going to be without a phone.

It's unenforceable if discipline enforcement and boundaries are so poor.

CreateUserNames · 07/06/2024 08:43

Yes it should be banned.

Swipe left for the next trending thread