to be sick of hearing about the traumas of my 2 friends who have had affairs with married men??

[Toothache]

on the phone now and have been for 3 hours!!!

YES he might go back to his wife!
YES he might not text you tonight!
NO you can't trust him... obviously!!

WHAT DO YOU EXPECT!!!

lol accidently drop the phone

You could always say "You made your bed.."

What on earth do they expect - he's MARRIED to the wife, he left the wife... and now moaning that he's untrustworthy?! Are they daft?

poor you, how utterly tedious having to listen to someone talking about themselves for 3 hours. Can't you get caller ID?

put the phone down on the table / chair / wherever.... and go and make yourself a nice cuppa...... and go to bed....

Why on earth would you allow them to blether on so long???

She's off now! jeeeeesus.

I've had to hear this for 9 months, he's left his wife for her and living at his friends.. but she's so insecure about everything... but of course you would be... he CHEATS!
Och it's awful... she's hurting. and he's being a total wanker.

hmph eatin into my night though.

My other friend is gloating about the fact that he's left and their getting a flat and they are SO IN LOVE! Nevermind the gf and 2 yr old dd.

I'm not an angel... but it's all a bit stereotypical.

What the feck do they say for that length of time?? Are they just boasting??

ok mispelled their there... >criminal

No I was witnessing a text arguement.

thankfully she took a valium and felt tired. >phew<

How stressful??? My life seems so simple and it SO isn't! lol

Ah, well, you see, I spoke to Hunker for 2 hours on the phone tonight, but, we had interesting things to discuss because we are both secure in our relationships

Toothy - tell him to grow up, or, tell them you'd love to chat but you have grown up things to do.

Ah, so it's you that's boasting then??

lol.. it's 2 females... having affairs with 2 separate guys at my work! must be in the water.

NOT VVVQV that's boasting..obv.

gawd I'm not boasting!

I had one of the girls on the phone and the other one on msn.

Only so many times you can say "I'm sure he loves you and won't go back".

3 fecking hours

Once a married man leaves his wife and the mistress takes her place then there is a vacancy for.............

Are you eardrums not hurting yet???

Do I detect the wiff of a (false) burning martyr??

Here is a phrase that works as well on boringly whiny friends as it does on people trying to sell you religion or life insurance...
"Can you hold on a minute? I've got major diarrhoea right now..." If you are as childish as me you can make parpy noises from a distance once you have laid the phone reciever on top of the fridge and poured yourself a nice drink...
HTH.

I put people like that on speakerphone. And get on with cleaning the bathroom or whatever.

Though Madamez' advice is better. Then you can listen to something pleasant while doing household chores.

Not very good at pattern recognition your friends are they?

Reminds me of work where a woman started an affair with a colleague 3 weeks after he returned from his honeymoon....! He divorces, they marry...3 years later they are divorced because he...
...guess the rest.

Would you marry a man prepared to commit adultery 3 weeks after his honeymoon has ended?

Just tell them to think with their head not their fanjo and do something useful with their time.

Ah well the appeal of married men to some women is that they feel somehow more attractive/sexy/better because they have 'stolen' a man away from a woman, rather than just netting a single man.

What perhaps they don't realise is that their appeal to a married man is that they are easy, happy to settle for second-best in many situations, and often with no strings. It's also a total ego boost.

So, it is my opinion that folk who have affairs (whichever party - the 'other' woman/man and/or the married person) are very self-absorbed.

I think this may ring some bells Toothy wrt to your two friends???

Personally, I would have told them to f-off and grow up. That would have shortened the conversation somewhat.

VVVQV- I agree. I think that there is a certain amount of attention seeking when women have affairs with married men. they know it will be an emotional mess but at the same time seem to get off on the drama of it all. Oh, and the men get a real kick out of two women fighting over them.

I understand that the sort of blokes who try to conduct bigamist arrangements, or just try to "keep two relationships going" are inadequate types who just 1. can't turn down any interest in them, and 2. is cluless on how to say 'no'.

So I hear....