Being yelled at when cycling

[Turtletunes]

I'm not sure if this is just daily modern life, but today really ground my gears 😡

Normally, I cycle off road to avoid people in general and I try to dress androgynously to avoid unwanted attention, but that only goes so far I guess. Today I cycled about ten miles, mostly on road and some off, and in that one hour and twenty minutes, I had some men in their thirties shouting something incomprehensible out of their car window at me. I think maybe they were trying to make me jump but as I'm a woman in my fifties now, I'm well used to creepy weirdos yelling at me in the street and didn't turn a hair.
Further on, I was on a village lane and overtook a mixed group of walkers in their 60s I would guess and one of the men shouted "Well it is an e-bike" as I went past. Why???? Does he think I didn't know that when I bought it??!!
AIBU to be tired of continuing everyday sexism? My husband doesn't have people yelling at him when he goes out on his bike, and when we're out together, people don't yell at us.
What can I do about this, except stay indoors? I'm so tired of men thinking heckling women in the street is acceptable/amusing.
I don't know what I want from this post really, except room to vent about how tired I am of experiencing decades of entitled mediocre men thinking its OK to behave as arseholes to women.

Men are such fuckwits. It's exhausting, isn't it?

I hope you had a good bike ride otherwise.

In the news today Driver knocks her off her bike, then returns - not to see if she's OK, but to shout abuse at her.

I used to get it when I was running. No idea what they get out of it - fuckwits.

Buy an air horn and affix to your bike. It will not prevent the comments from happening but it can be used to correct their behaviour.

I get this when out walking the dog. Men always have to say SOMETHING. I just totally ignore them now, don't even look up

Happens all the time!
My worst one was having been knocked off my bike, while lying in the road, a white van man stopped to tell me it served me right for being on a bike.

It's been a long time now but when I was a teenager, young men used to swerve at me or beep their horn to make me jump because presumably they found it funny to see me wobble. It's so bloody dangerous.

I hate drivers who shout at cyclists or otherwise try to intimidate or belittle them. Absolute shitheads.

I think it’s quite arrogant to think all these men are noticing you tbh.

Sing loudly. You won't hear them

Don't be daft, you have to notice someone in order to shout stuff at them or make stupid comments about their bike.

OP and all female cyclists would much rather go about their business without any heckling.

It sounds exhausting, but the best thing you can do is carry on and don't let them grind you down, and let it out when needed to anyone who'll listen. I'm only aware of women being treated like this because of the ones who talk about it, so it has a purpose.

I saw a story recently about a women only mass bike ride, as a kind of protest about all the issues women face, maybe one's needed where you live?

If they haven't noticed her why are they shouting things at her?! What a bizarre comment.

I'm not sure why you imagine people are shouting at her if they don't notice her?

Is it your understanding that men commonly shout into empty air at nothing?

Did he pick you yet?

So a group of walkers in their 60s said 'well it is an ebike' as you passed? Surely they were saying this to each other. It sounds like a reply.

'That was a bit close'
'Well it is an ebike'

'She's fast'
'Well it is an ebike'

Obviously no excuse for shouting something out of the car window.

I get it when I’m running OP. It’s always men. Comments on my body or my clothing. Often out of shape, unfit bastards offering running tips or telling me that I’m doing well and to smile. 🤔 I’m very fit and have been running 3/4 times a week for 15 years.

My male partner and son never get comments. I never get comments if I run with them, only if I’m on my own or if I’m running with other women, then we all get comments, from men. Creepy bastards.

My friends tells them to fuck off when she gets creepy comments. I mostly try to ignore them. I often use a treadmill so I don’t have to endure these men. I don’t know what the answer is.

@EmilyTjP Oh do one.

It's quite stupid of you not to know thinking and hearing are not the same tbh.

OP, I don't know what the answer correct answer is but I'm inclined towards ignoring. Being a dickhead is their problem, don't let it spoil what you want to do.

Get a helmet Camera and watch the Fuckers behave themselves.
It's brilliant, like knowing how it would be to cycle as a man.
No hassle whatsoever and no one cutting you off at roundabouts 😁

I was thinking of getting a mini missile launcher but I'll try this first thanks.

Sorry to hear this OP. Unlike some other posters I don’t think you’re being arrogant (??!!!) : I got yelled at the other day by men in a white van for having the temerity to press the pedestrian crossing button which caused them to have to stop for a red light. Yelled at and abused for walking on a Sunday morning. I’ve stopped running in public now. I’m 50 and totally nondescript looking.

I'm also a woman in my fifties and it hasn't stopped.
I have spent the last two years recovering from a serious illness using my bike to recover.

At the beginning there was endless "Shouldn't you be riding that love?" As I pushed my bike up steep hills, struggling with both my mental and physical health, always from severely unfit men ALWAYS. Some got ignored some received my vocal assessment of their own psychical health.

Just yesterday I had a "Nearly there love" from a builder.
I have to say I have never received any comments from male cyclists although that's just my experience, it's always from men who obviously never so much as go for a walk.

I had nasty/unhelpful comments from male cyclists when I was just pootling along behind DH. I'm not unfit generally, I just don't cycle very often so am not used to it. It reminded why I don't cycle very often.