To think this is dishonest?

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I know several people (Friends and family) lately who have had gastric weight loss surgery.
None of these people have made it public.

However they are posting photos on social media saying they’ve talking about how much weight they’ve lost and people are commenting saying well done, how did you do it and you’re an inspiration etc etc.

Am I wrong in thinking people will see these and feel bad that perhaps they can’t achieve similar from diet and exercise? Because they don’t know the true story.

YANBU

If they were not posting about losing weight and discussing it themselves, then fair enough to keep private information - private.
As they are the ones discussing the actual weight loss, then yes, they are lying.

It's stupid, if you are aware of it, others know eventually.

I think this is a question of degree.

Had surgery/taken medication to lose weight and posting images of yourself without explaining that is fine. If you're asked about it and ignore it/dodge the question also fine. It's personal information.

However, deliberately claim its down to 'natural' methods is dishonest. Yes you still have to apply willpower and effort but it's similar to doping in athletes IMO.

Exactly. So much ignorance on this thread.

Ive had a very successful gastric sleeve, and it’s not an “easy” option in any way

As they are the ones discussing the actual weight loss, then yes, they are lying.

According to the OP, all they've done is post photos and say how much weight they've lost.

That's not lying.

That's posting photos because they're delighted with how they look now the weight has gone.

It doesn't make them the public property of people who want personal questions answered.

that's my point, posting photos is fine. No one is asking them to filter their new appearance.

No one is forcing them to discuss weight loss, if they choose to do, it's dishonest to pretend that it's just down to diet.

If you don't want to talk about something, don't. Half truth are dishonest.

does it matter how its achieved? would you say the same about drug addicts who take a subsitute to help them come off drugs, would you say the same about alcoholics who take something to help come off alcohol.

most people go to surgery or injections as a last ditch attempt to lose weight, its expensive and comes with its own risks.

i bet all those saying its dishonest have never had an issue with their weight in their life!

being over weight is not just because you are a greedy fat cow who can't say no to food..

its about childhood trauma, its about adult trauma, its about physical pain, stress, money.. and its bloody hard work trying to lose weight when you are on medication which makes you gain weight! and theres no help out there apart from those who sneer and say eat less and exercise more!

yes i take the injections.. because ive been told to lose weight. i have tried fasting, slimming world, weight watchers, i've tried starving myself.. none of it worked and there is no help out there for me because i am a fully functioning human being and all people see is fat!

Social media has a tendency to harm other peoples mental health by showing the unrealistic and unachieveable

We each have a responsibility to avoid harming others - don't just leave it to the tech guys to try and come up with rules - take responsibility

I don't think you should say how much you spent but you should not pretend that anyone can afford a mega holiday if they "just work hard"

Yes but the OP hasn't said they've said anything about how they lost it.

Yet they're expecting the person to tell everyone.

Someone’s medical procedures are none of anyone else’s business.

We have a responsibility to ourselves regarding our social media usage, if we feel we're harming ourselves by using it. It's not down to everyone else on the internet, as that's just not realistic.

The OP hasn't said once that the person in question has told people they just need to work hard.

In fact according to the OP, they haven't said anything at all.

you can tell this post has triggered me... my last point. all those women who sadly cannot conceive for whatever reason and have help (ivf etc..) when they are finally able to post their long awaited baby photos, are they supposed to add a by line saying 'conceived with help?' so those people out there who conceived naturally can gloat and say 'well they didnt do it naturally... ' NO..

mind your own business

I agree. I couldn’t do it without injections and nobody would have surgery if they could lose the weight without it.

A lot of hate on this post but completely agree! It’s just really annoying because realistically, they couldn’t do it in their own so needed help so why are they ashamed to say that?!

Do you say the same about other medical procedures, or is it just weight loss that causes this reaction? As a PP says, should a couple always be clear that they’ve had fertility treatment when announcing the birth of their child, for example?

Also, have you considered that this might be part of the reason why they don’t tell people they’ve had surgery/used medication? Because they know people are sneering ‘ah, they couldn’t do it by themselves then’. Overweight people are judged for pretty much whatever they do.

Exactly.

I don’t hide that I’ve had surgery, if you ask, I’ll tell you, but I don’t shout about it.

Anyone who thinks it’s “easier” than diet/exercise can fuck right off and educate their ignorant selves

What "hate"?

Are you trying to observe that some posters disagreed with OP? You can just say that and park the hyperbole.