Quit my job due to anxiety of job / team - how do i make it through the notice period?

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I have been at a new job for 3 months, a couple of weeks ago someone asked me how i was and i just burst into tears. I am covering maternity and i've been thrown into the deep end on projects. I am a person who likes to know everything and i am overwhelmed by how much i need to do and the projects that i have on. My boss knows the job inside out and can probably do it with her eyes closed but when i say i dont feel confident in what i'm doing she just says its because i'm new. I do everything she tells me i need to do and it ends up being wrong or not the way i should do it.
I feel like she is making subtle hints at me constantly and undermining me. She goes on about pay continuously as though i am on money that she is so i feel like she doesnt give me the support in need because i should work it out myself.
If i ask her something that I might have asked last week she gets annoyed because i am asking the same question. I am just trying to make sure i know the right thing as a new job is overwhelming and i am not coping.
She was previously bullied at a different company and says she hates bullying. But i feel like she is just intimating me and is bullying me.
I have told her i am stuggling and she doesnt even acknowledge that.
I've handed in my notice, but now i feel it has got worse. I have a long notice period and not sure how i am going to make it through.
Has anyone got any advice on how to not worry?

Ring in sick, Go to your GP, be v honest and ask to please be signed off.

Put yourself first. You have raised your concerns and been ignored. I'd suggest getting signed off by your GP with anxiety for your notice period.
Just be glad you are out of there soon.
So sorry you are going through this OP. Good luck x

Go off sick if you see no other option
However, getting you next job may become a bit more difficult
Good luck

If this is a maternity cover of a year I would have first tried the following: asked for a meeting with your manager/HR and made it clear you needed a proper induction and training to be able to do the role and that you wanted 3 days to be ring fenced to cover this before you could resume the actual role.

But as you have ended your notice I would also look at what is written in your contract, usually there is a probation period and during that period the notice is only one week.

As other people have said I would just get signed off sick and start job-hunting. They have wasted your time and compromised your health and you don't owe them anything...

This is what i am worried about, i've never signed off sick before and i dont want to compromise my career. Equally getting through the notice period is tough already.

This happened to me a long time ago. When applying for other jobs, IF you are asked WHY you left your previous job, say it just wasn't the right fit for you. The only problem is that you might not get a reference as you hadn't completed your probation, but just use the same references as you used to apply for this recent job. Wishing you all the best as it's horrible and big hugs for you going through this.

What is your notice period?

How can you have a long notice period if you've only been there 3 months?

i've got a doctors appointment tomorrow, so i will speak to them about being signed off sick.

8 weeks...

What I did was to turn up sharp at 9am and stop work on the dot of 5pm. Took lunch hour when it suited me and did not cut it short for anything. Did only what my job description required and that was it.

All it all, my notice period was one of the most relaxing times I had at work.

Is she actually being intimidating or is this just your perception? How are you in other areas of your life - any other stressors?

Can you ask to see exemplar work so you can see what you are supposed to be doing. Do you take thorough notes when you ask a question so that you don't have to ask again.
If they are for specific processes can you write guidance for that task and get it confirmed by your manager that you have covered all the steps ...this will have the benefit of helping you and improving team resilience in future.

I'd get signed off and start looking for a new job. Life is too short.

If you've only been there a few months, you can leave it off your resume entirely or just put that it was a temp job and use a previous reference.

She is being intimidating, I've heard her talk about other people and i know she is one of those people who likes to make digs at people and is very outspoken. Its just not very helpful when you're trying to do the right thing.
Each project is different, and requires different inputs, so there is no right way to do things. There are a few other issues within the team which doesn't help as no one has the time to help or support.
It just makes me feel like i'm not good enough but I have to remember that this job is not right for me.

Are you sure it's 8 weeks for people who have been less than 6 months / 1 year?

Only you can make that decision
Good luck!!

It is ridiculous, but it's 8 weeks, although they were trying to say it was 12.
I am not sure I could cope with 4 to be honest. I let the job push me too far when I knew it wasn't the right job for me.

It might say eight weeks in your contract, but that doesn’t mean it’s enforceable or legal. I think you should post in the legal section because I really don’t think that they can impose an eight week notice period someone who’s only been there for three months..

Don’t worry about your cv/getting another job. Just say it was a temp or freelance cover job.

she sounds a terrible manager

I agree. Get signed off with stress. Have some time to decompress and look for something else. The manager is bullshitting, I bet she was the bully at her previous workplace.

I thought this too. Normal, decent people don't even need to mention bullying in this context - we just assume that bullying is bad!

Go to your manager, explain that you are thinking of going off sick due to stress, and is there anything you can jointly do to help you cope whilst you work out your notice period. If she is not receptive, then it’s time to go off sick. Well done for putting your notice in, these decisions are not easy.

8 weeks isn't a long time. You'll just have to suck it up if you don't want to go on the sick. You'll have a few days annual leave to take too presumably.

Sorry I've just realised that sounded really horrible. I've been there and know what it's like. Sorry if I sounded bitchy. You can do this. 8 weeks is very doable.

Do you absolutely have to work your notice? I thought it was courtesy more than anything!

It'll be part of her contract so she'd be breaking the contract.