To think it must be miserable going through life being this angry.

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In cafe Nero. A lady in front of me ordered a special request coffee. Her husband came storming over, and demanded the coffee be remade as it wasn't done to his satisfaction. His wife and the barista looked completely confused. But she was about to re make it. He then decided they were leaving and stoned out with his wife in tow.
I felt really sorry for his wife being married to such an angry man. There was just no need for that behaviour. AIBU to think it's a sad way to lead your life.

I agree that agitated depression causes this problem. People imagine that depression always causes people to be withdrawn and quiet, but it can present as the opposite. That's not to say that all angry people are depressed, but I bet a majority of them would be helped by medication. It's a miserable existence being angry all the time and the stress does shorten your life. It usually affects middle aged men who are well known for avoiding going to the GP to ask for help.

It's a shame really because they're wasting their lives and making others' lives miserable.

Some of these would irritate me. Parking infront of my drive, no queueing. I'm very much a believer in rules. And some peoples behaviour doesn't follow these rules and that's not fair not right.

Our nextdoor neighbour is like this.
The husband is very easy going and you can talk to him if there is a problem.
She is a nightmare mention a problem and it's ww3.
Man on the other side asked if they could lower their security light as it's shining into the bedroom cue much screaming and aggressive behaviour. Her husband was mortified and has got a full time job to get out of her way. He is 72.
Wife has fallen out with most of the street.

My ex PIL were like that. FIL’s conversations would often be about who he ‘hated’. Usually a politician, celebrity or footballer he’d never met. MIL frequently fell out with friends/family/neighbours, sometimes over really trivial shit, and then held a grudge for ages. If she was in a bad mood the whole family walked on eggshells to avoid her having a screaming temper tantrum. Going out for dinner with them was never fun, I was always just waiting for something/someone to annoy one of them. On reflection it’s no surprise that exH was so emotionally fucked up…

Yes, I recognise this kind of all-consuming anger over the slightest thing from when I had PND.

I deal with angry men at work. It’s clear they aren’t used to a female calmly politely and professionally calling them on it. I don’t judge their wives saying nothing or avoiding eye contact because I had an abusive exH and I get it…. But I do think oh FFS when their wife covers the behavior by saying….oh he’s just joking. He’s absolutely not joking stop with the excuses

Nothing scarier than an angry man. So relieved I'll eternally be single through choice

there are so many bitter angry men

men angry when younger as the world doesn’t accept their greatness

men angry when older knowing that it’s too late for the world to appreciate their greatness

so many of them around I feel for their families

I grew up in a home where it was the female who behaved like this, still does actually. In some ways it makes it very difficult for people to intimidate me, they can shout and scream and fling themselves about and it just makes me switch off until they run out of steam and calm down, which they invariably do.

I do sometimes forget other people haven't been acclimatized to it like I have though, and the noise made by someone behaving like this, feels more violent to them ( and probably rightly so ) than it does to me.

You don’t speak up because if you do you get punished, often physically, when you get home. Speaking from experience.

There's extreme uncontrollable anger like the sister someone mentioned. There are men and women like this too who are genuinely ready to blow a fuse at anyone. They often get hurt. But more commonly there are people who come across as fuse-blowers but only blow their fuse at specific people - e.g. waiting staff who can't shout back, or (in the case of men) women but not other men. I don't think they are faking the anger but they are definitely choosing who to direct it to. One of my old uni friends (male physically very big) was in a car with his mum but sat in the back where they had tinted windows. They were going down a narrow country road and came across another car and neither wanted to reverse. The driver of the other car burst out in an absolute rage and hammered on her window. I genuinely thought he was going to smash it. The son flung his door open and bounced out all cross like and the other man's anger instantly dissipated. So he wasn't actually in an uncontrollable rage.

On the other hand there are men arrested for e.g. DV who go on to assault the arresting police officers. I genuinely think those men are genuine when they say they can't control themselves. I don't know who's scarier - them or the people who can go from screaming at their partner to calm and controlled in an instant.