To Ask DH To Open The Bedroom Window?!

[RabbitsRock]

It’s a silly thing but we always seem to fall out over it. DH sleeps on the right & is next to the window ( literally a step away). Yet when I ask him to open the window because the room is getting warm, he moans & says if I want it opening then I should be the one to get out of bed & go round to open it. My argument is that he’s right next to it so he could easily save me the bother. AIBU?

One step out of bed, five steps out of bed, it’s all the same. If you’re the one who wants it open, unless he can literally reach it without getting out of bed, you should do it.

If someone has to get out of bed to open it, it should be you.

What don't you swap bed sides so you can open it when you like?

So you expect him to get up so you don’t have to?

If I wanted it open closed or whatever I would do it

Agree. You want it open, you open it.

If he can do it from bed without getting out, then he should. If he has to get out then you should.

Open the window before you get into bed.

You're the one who wants it open, open it yourself.

If I was all warm and cosy in bed and dh wanted me to get out to save them a few steps I'd be seriously grumpy. Switch sides if it's a regular issue

Do you wake him up to ask him to do this?

Churchview no I don’t wake him up

Good lord what shitty marriages you have! My DH would do it for me, no question, and I would do it for him. The one who is closest would do it.

If you want the window open, you open the window.

We’d fall out too. If you want the window open go and open it. You don’t wake up your partner just because they’re closer.

Meanwhile, I care about my husband and if I see him relaxing and it’s a task we could both do easily do, I would rather do it myself than disturb his comfort. Because, you know, we have a loving and happy marriage.

Yabu

pikkumyy77 DH is lovely & does loads for me. If the positions were reversed, I would hop out of bed for him. StormingNorman I don’t wake him up!

Then what did you expect from MN?

OP- You still have answered whether he needs to get out of bed to open it, or can reach it from the bed?

Our bedroom window is open permanently. Would that help?

YABU

It's the getting out of bed that's the worst bit, not the number of steps. Once you're out it doesn't matter if it's one step or five steps.

Unless he can reach it from bed, YABU

If possible just have separate bedrooms. I'm a few years in after kids leaving and it's a life changer. I still love him and spend time together in bed just don't sleep together.