Kids party no food

[Thebabewiththepowerof]

Quick one

Aibu to think the recent move towards not providing party food at kids parties is a bit odd?

Just picked up DS from yet another party where no food was provided (and no it’s not a cost thing, not in this case anyway) just a doughnut 🍩.

The kids don’t care I’m sure but I wasn’t planning on doing a “dinner” tonight so had to come home and produce something from nothing because he was hungry. If you aren’t providing food then at least tell us in advance so we know!

Anyway, am I?

ps for context he is 8, appreciate if he were 16 this would all be a bit weird 🤪

No-one said that they do ...

Yup that's what they are saying. No point saving for what you can it won't be good enough for them

It's not a party unless there is a cheese and pineapple hedgehog.

(I think that appears in the Constitution of the United States, just after 'right to bear arms'.)

No jam slags = No party from now on !

That’s actually a really mean-spirited and bitchy thing to say.

Give me a break. Are you telling me that out if 40 kids invited not one bought a present? You cut your cloth and cater for a party you can afford instead of inviting the whole class to a party and not provide refreshments.

I actually wish more kids parties would stop doing food mid morning/afternoon. It throws off hunger for main meals and is just there because what's what people do. Some snacks and cake is fine.

We’ve had a few of these recently!! But was forewarned and things such as due to the time eg 1-3 or 9-11 there will be no food just sweets!! I wonder if it’s a saving effort or money type of thing? I’d never experienced no food parties until this year and my eldest is now a teenager and the younger ones 5-7 so I don’t know why it’s become more of a thing!
I provide proper food at my kids parties as it would feed weird not to! Even if it is 11am or 3pm!

She did provide refreshments. A drink and a snack. That's plenty.

😂😂

It's normal to have food. YABU to expect your kid to come away from a party well fed though. Sometimes they are, sometimes it's snacky stuff and the kids can be too distracted to eat a filling amount.

If there was no food though I would presume that they are on a budget and I'd just feed my kid when I got home... no biggy!

@Youcantellalotofthingsabouttheflowers

Give me a break. Are you telling me that out if 40 kids invited not one bought a present? You cut your cloth and cater for a party you can afford instead of inviting the whole class to a party and not provide refreshments.

You're a nasty piece of work.

When I was growing up I never had a party that wasn't at home. I could invite 3 friends every year. Because we had no money. My mum baked the cake, made sandwiches and snacks and made her own party games for us. We put on music and danced. I loved it but I knew we had no money. When I turned 10 for the first and last time they threw a big party. They had been saving for a few years and hired the local swimming pool then took everyone to McDonald's afterwards. It took them so long to save for that.

You have no idea what @CammoMammo's situation is. She threw a party for the child she loves and all his friends. And you, you disgusting creature, cannot let it go and you sneer and sneer because she (someone you don't even know!) dared to provide juice and cakes and nothing else.

We recently attended a large party for a 6 year old and the invitation expressly said no presents. No one brought presents. If the invite states that then it's rude to bring presents (since you seem to need a lesson in what is rude and what isn't). They were moving house and couldn't deal with anymore things right now.

Most people in the real world navigate situations like this just fine. God help your children if you impart this drama and ungrateful attitude onto them.

So much food gets left that I can understand it to be honest. I would want to know in advance whether there will or won’t be a birthday tea though - so that we can plan accordingly.

It was a kids party at the house with games 2-4pm which is what I’m noticing. People are more commonly selecting times to avoid food and just…not. We have had several that are 1-3 2-4 or even 10-12 and none have had food provided barring some drinks and a piece of birthday cake. I’m mean that’s fine but I’m just curious if this is the new normal and whether I can get away with it next year?! 🤣

I didn’t suggest that a sit down dinner was on the cards but conventionally if you throw a party there is party food. The clue is in the name. It’s cool with me really but I wonder if people should be more clear about this on the invite so we can plan more effectively?

Why are you so invested in being cruel about what other people do for their children’s parties?

That’s exactly when it was. If this is the new normal then fine. I was just curious on others take on it

I don’t know what a jam slag is but I deffo want them at my next party

2-4 with a doughnut is fine. Why on earth would the need a full on spread just after lunch/just before dinner. Doughnuts are quite calorific

There was a party doughnut

@Thebabewiththepowerof

Just keep some quick food in your freezer. That's handy for all sorts of eventualities anyway. Doesn't need any more thought than that.

I wouldn't assume my son will come back full from a party. They run about, they might not like what's on offer, they might not eat anything or they might just fill up on all the shite and be hungry later again anyway.

Get off the fucking bandwagon will you.

As I said I’m sure they didn’t give a toss and deep down I don’t really but I just wondered if this was how things are as they get older. If so then fine and that’s how I’ll cater next year too!

also not a purist. Just asking a question