Kids party no food

[Thebabewiththepowerof]

Quick one

Aibu to think the recent move towards not providing party food at kids parties is a bit odd?

Just picked up DS from yet another party where no food was provided (and no it’s not a cost thing, not in this case anyway) just a doughnut 🍩.

The kids don’t care I’m sure but I wasn’t planning on doing a “dinner” tonight so had to come home and produce something from nothing because he was hungry. If you aren’t providing food then at least tell us in advance so we know!

Anyway, am I?

ps for context he is 8, appreciate if he were 16 this would all be a bit weird 🤪

I just don't see the drama.... I'd never expect a meal at a party from 2-4pm. I agree plenty do offer a full party spread but it's not always a sure thing and sometimes would be just some cake! And that's fine. I've noticed that most people have party at a meal time so it's more obvious that there is a meal involved.

I work till 6 myself so can assure you I live in real world and generally giving my kids dinner at 6:30 or 7. So 3:30 would be really early for them, they'd usually just have a snack at after-school club.

Lots of us are commenting that it’s unusual to be able to afford a soft play party for 40 and not provide more than a slice of cake at the end. It doesn’t mean we are telling the OP she’s a terrible, evil human. She’s absolutely not! Would I be surprised if my child attended that party? Perhaps a little bit but after reading this thread, perhaps not at all! Would I thank her and get on with my day and be grateful my kid had a nice time with their friends? Of course!
She brought it up on this thread….

They have been far worse comments aimed at people.

I think the haughty "your child should not be eating between meals" clearly implying people are bad parents for not sticking to rigid meal times have brought up a few sarcastic replies...

YANBU
I think it's odd. Tbh it's like they cba. Generally happens when party is a paid for activity.
Party tea ( full of crap) is a big part of a kids party.
Also can't bear it when they have a birthday cake just for show then whisk it away without cutting it up and giving people any if it.
Rude!

I am not a fan of personal attacks. But I don’t label them all bullying.

But a soft play session for 40 isn't necessarily a party either.
Playing party games cost nothing. Balloons are a quid. A few pizzas and chopped veg sticks for their besties followed by a cake and a party can be done fora tenner.
Yes older kids and teens night not want that party but a sleepover doesn't cost much either

Not even when it’s multiple people banding together?

Those aren’t the poster you’ve been attacking though.

The way the comments have been made is intended to belittle the host. Imagine telling a mum the party she threw for her child’s birthday isn’t a proper party. It is mean and unnecessary.

I'm at kids parties a lot almost every wkend these days. These are 4/5yr olds and 6/7yr olds. I've never known any of the parties not to provide food. The very basic level is always at least sandwiches, juice and crisps/sweets.

I agree but it’s also mean and unnecessary to say children are entitled to a party when some people cannot afford even that or the multitude of other comment. It’s been comments on both sides!

They each have their own view and are expressing it. They are not consulting with each other (as far as I know) and ganging up. Having a minority view is difficult when many opposing views are directed at you. But I don’t agree that it’s automatically bullying. That word is really overused here.

I agree with this. Calling it bullying is just a way to shut down discussion. Quite a few people disagree with that poster and equally, many agree. It doesn’t mean we are bullying. The rude comments are unacceptable and I don’t condone them. I find that poster’s approach to hosting a party different to mine- as do other people. It’s not what I am used to but doesn’t mean either of us is wrong. That’s ok, world would be boring if we didn’t think differently!

If my children were invited to a 2-4pm party as young children then they would have had a normal lunch at about half 12. If I was taking them to a 2-4pm party then I would not be working that day, and dinner would be at about half five regardless of how late it had to be on a weeknight out of necessity.

It's all very varied here. I have found that parties that are over meal times have provided food. Ones that aren't (9-11, 2-4 etc) normally just do sweets and snacks. HOWEVER I have been to some parties at those times that have provided a full on meal. Then I have no clue what I'm doing at the actual meal time 😂🤣. Haven't been to any parties that haven't provided food, some have just been a whole table of sweets so not 'proper' food I suppose!

Sorry, but that is taking the piss.

I would not be impressed that I had to pay entry and no food either. Did the host parent accept gifts?

Blimey, your throat must be killing you with the number of times you've had to repeat yourself to those who are hard of comprehension and reading!! 😂 you need to get yourself a party-type refreshment now. I'll pass you over a fruit shoot or something 😆

I am not attacking anyone?

I am either putting my opinion like every one else, or quoting the post I am replying to.

You can report personal attacks

It's not haughty. It's just the kids don't need to eat every 2-3 hours plus they DID eat anyway

It is. It's sneery.

Yes. All she did was say she offered drinks and cake at her DC's birthday party and she got a whole bunch of replies telling her awful she was because of it

It's bullying and it's totally unnecessary.

They just made themselves look unpleasant though. I do hope that poster didn't take it to heart though I know it can be hard not to.

who said they needed to eat every 2-3 hours? Who said that parents serve a full Sunday roast before every party and plan a full heavy diner after? 😂

The norm is to have food at PARTIES, so most normal parents plan food accordingly, because you know...it's only food and people are flexible. And know the meaning of fun.

Me too, it's a shame she hasn't been back to see all the support she's had.