To end this friendship

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I recent had a big falling out with a friend.

Her behaviour was appalling and was directed at my child, needless the to say due to that the relationship was done immediately.

There is a mutual friend who is aware of the situation and all the details of what happened and who has continued to see me and other person.

Mutual friend is a very nice person and our children play nicely together.

However I'm struggling to get past the fact that she has made excuses for the other person following their behaviour towards my child and has continued to spend time with a person who assaulted my child.

As nice as she is I don't think I can continue to be friends with her. While it's nice to say I don't expect people to choose sides in this situation I actually do.

I'm very hurt but what happened and this may be clouding my judgement. AIBU?

We had a less sever version of this. I was OK with the other parents remaining friends with the other woman, and even that they could see mitigating factors(indisagreed with them, but could see why other people felt theybwere relevant). But I wasn't able to get past that they were unable to explicitly acknowledge her behaviour was appalling.

These weren't good friends and conveniently the incident happened as our children were leaving primary school, but I very quickly let those friendships die.

As pps have said it all depends what the other person did.
We can't make a judgement because some people would say that their child had been assaulted if someone had physically moved them against their will, even if it was to prevent them harming themselves or others.

In my mind there's a world of difference between intentionally hurting a child with a smack or something as a punishment, and a child getting hurt, bruised arm for example while being prevented from doing something else.

Unless it's clear then it's hard to judge. Maybe your friend doesn't know either and so feels unable to make a decision.

Thay could be said for absolutely every thread here. Sometimes you just got to take the post at face value , police are involved and they look like to be taking action I think its safe to say we can just go with that on the thread.

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Sorry! My phone is having a breakdown

Honestly op. As we don't know exactly what happened , it's hard to judge. You are absolutely within your rights to cut contact with this person if you want as you feel she is complicit in your mutual friends behaviour but depending on where you live and if you have kids the same age it's likely that you will end up with many acquaintances in common. Will you feel you need to cut them all off? You could end up very isolated.