To be drinking beer for breakfast because moving house is shit?

[MistressoftheDarkSide]

So I found one line can of slightly out of date Carlsberg. And I popped it about 30 minutes ago.

I'm downsizing from a four bed to a one bed flat cos widowed two years ago and my entire life has gone to shit (business folded before Christmas) and my land lord is selling - not that I can afford it anyway. I'm in ten grands worth of debt and apparently putting fridges in skips is an unforgivable thing unless you stump up yet more money for disposal. And no, unless explicitly explained I don't think everyone knows this. Also, when did mattresses become hazardous waste requiring extra money?

I'm at the house looks like a disaster zone with all the lady bitty bits to go to storage or my new place and I'm alternating between manic bursts of activity and wailing.

So -

YABU - An out of date Carlsberg drunk before 9am is a clear sign of terminal decline.

YANBU - Vodka would be better.

YANBU
A can of gnat’s pee sounds like a very poor consolation prize.

Your situation sounds totally awful and I hope that this is the low point and things will start to get better from now.

Stop at the Carlsberg op, you won’t be feeling any better if you try to do it drunk, but once it’s done, crack on tonight, good luck. It will get better,,,

Currently living out of boxes because no builders have been turning up to get my new place ready. Let me know if you have another out of date can lying around 😔

Don't drink it, it'll just make you feel even worse. Save it and drink it later tonight if you want it then. It sounds like a really tough time for you. 💐

Poor you. That’s so stressful

Sounds stressful but life is actually easier if you’re realistic.

It’s not acceptable to throw fridges in skips and it’s well known that they have to be disposed of properly. It costs money to do that which is fact and not a sign the universe is out to get you.

It's OK it's just one can and it has just taken the edge off - solidarity with fellow refugees in their own homes or between homes.

I'm not going near the random mulled wine or the liebfraumilch I found in my bedroom.

My friend is picking me up a Macdonalds breakfast so that'll help.

Just hoofed a few boxes of stuff outside as people love free stuff round here and now it's pissing down typically.

The house is likely to end up a redevelopment thing so I'm going to have to leave a few things behind.... my flat and storage are at capacity and I may spend the first week at my new place sleeping upright in a corner at the rate I'm going.

Man, this sucks so much.

Hah. Easy for you to say. I paid extra to dispose of the fridges. No-one said don't put them in the skip.

And I think I can be forgiven for wondering if I was actually Hitler in my last life given everything that has happened relentlessly in the last two years.

I'm a particularly realistic person.

The reality is my life is shit.

Honestly sometimes you just have to lean into the narrative. This is a memorably big, shit day that sounds like it encapsulates and is the summation of some real long term shit. You'll always remember that you marked that with the out of date breakfast lager and be slightly amused by it.

Onwards and upwards. Next drink is a glass of prosecco shared with a friend eating fish and chips on the floor of your new home, and then it's all up and new memories from there.

Carlsberg goes out of date? In a can? Captain Scott would have drunk it. [misses point of thread]. Good luck OP, I hope the McDonald's breakfast helps 💐

@MistressoftheDarkSide
Just to say I completely get you and your dark sense of humour. I, too, a fairly decent person I like to think, have had shitstorm after shitstorm in my life, including the death of two of my children, a divorce and other crap I won't bore you with.
But resilience and a very dry sense of humour has eventually got me through. If you were Hitler in a past life I was a child killer 🤣 drink that out of date beer, you deserve it!!! Save one for me if you find any more!!
Seriously, good luck with the move. This too, shall pass.

Round here the easiest way is to leave things like a fridge on your driveway overnight. It's miraculously disappeared by the morning. We always try that option with items before paying for proper disposal.

two years is still not that long ago to recover from being widowed. Hope things improve in the flat.

Yeah I've had some shit times in my life so I hear you.

My current house was a shit show for a good few months after I moved in and I just kept taking life one day at a time and ordering lots of Starbucks (can't drink due to meds)

Sending a metaphorical gin and tonic to go with your McDonalds

Moving is shit, and I'm sorry for your circumstances. Wishing you all the best!

Your poor thing. It all sounds like a nightmare.
I'm sorry for your loss of your DH.
Definitely should've had the beer. But realistically you deserve something nicer. I know champagne's probably out of the question but how about inviting a mate round to share a bottle of prosecco? Maybe they could help you tidying or unpacking boxes and stuff at the same time?
I hope things get better for you soon! X

Sounds like you've been through a lot and are still going through a lot. I hope once the move is completed that you feel your life get back on a more even and hopeful keel.

You deserve better than Carlsberg. But I hope you enjoyed it all the same! Up until Tudor times people drank watered down beer for breakfast. So if anyone tuts tell them you're doing historical research actually.

It feels shit but it could be the start of something great. You are decluttering and you will make the new place perfect. Less stuff and things that give you pleasure.

The one you lost will be looking down and feeling so proud of you. When you get into the new place toast yourself and them with something nice.

Out of date beer is actually liquid courage and magical good luck is contained in the froth and bubbles. Trufact. Bangs Gavel. It's all going to be great from now on.

Alcohol in the morning is universally accepted at the airports, and airport is a transportation hub. Moving a house is also "a transit", so you are not being unreasonable at all.

I suspect the OP has had too much realism in her life recently, and a bit of escapism via a can of Carlsberg is very understandable.

I didn't know you couldn't put fridges in skips. Never really thought about tbh.

OP, I was widowed four years ago. It's shit. And now all of this - huge sympathy. Enjoy your beer.

I'm really sorry op. I hope you're OK.

I'm feeling a bit final straw-ish too this week.

I sometimes feel like I want to call in sick from my life. You know like when you're really overwhelmed at work and just can't face the day, you can call in sick? But, I know, you can't do that from your whole life. Like, go under general anaesthetic for a day to escape your life briefly. Wouldn't it be nice though.

Anyway I hope everything starts to look brighter for you soon. Hopefully your new flat will be lovely and homely very soon.

I voted YANBU, moving is bloody stressful with all the other stressful things you’ve had. Hope the move goes well and you can have fresh Carlsberg or champagne, whichever you prefer.

My husband died 4 years ago. It is utterly fucking shit. 2 years of living with that will hardly scratch the surface of recovery, let alone all the other stuff you're dealing with. Massive hug @MistressoftheDarkSide and I am raising a metaphoric glass to you.

Hope the carlsberg sat comfortably and the move is more or less done.

Say you had a fridge you needed to dispose of - don't you think you would Google how to do it? The information would immediately appear that it has to be disposed of properly for safety and environmental reasons. Not just chucked in a skip which seems to have led to some sort of conflict for OP, ditto with the old mattress.

I have sympathy for OPs situation but it doesn't help to encourage people not to take accountability for their actions. The fridge in a skip is a small example, so is a beer for breakfast but neither are a good idea if we're being honest.