To be drinking beer for breakfast because moving house is shit?

[MistressoftheDarkSide]

So I found one line can of slightly out of date Carlsberg. And I popped it about 30 minutes ago.

I'm downsizing from a four bed to a one bed flat cos widowed two years ago and my entire life has gone to shit (business folded before Christmas) and my land lord is selling - not that I can afford it anyway. I'm in ten grands worth of debt and apparently putting fridges in skips is an unforgivable thing unless you stump up yet more money for disposal. And no, unless explicitly explained I don't think everyone knows this. Also, when did mattresses become hazardous waste requiring extra money?

I'm at the house looks like a disaster zone with all the lady bitty bits to go to storage or my new place and I'm alternating between manic bursts of activity and wailing.

So -

YABU - An out of date Carlsberg drunk before 9am is a clear sign of terminal decline.

YANBU - Vodka would be better.

It's one beer not a bottle of vodka on her cheerios.

Come back and tell us all about it when you've been widowed, your business has folded and you've been evicted from your home and are forcibly downsized in accommodation. You may find you care a lot less about being a good girl and just do whatever you can cope with doing at the time.

Oh and op in the future if you need things like fridges/freezers/washing machines to be removed. Facebook search for a local scrap man. They've saved us hundreds collecting old shit before now.

Out of date beer can give you the runs……quit while you’re ahead.

Hence I said it's a small example.

The trouble is that doing things the wrong way just leads to more stress as OP has found with her fridge in the skip.

Nothing to do with being a good girl or not.

apparently putting fridges in skips is an unforgivable thing unless you stump up yet more money for disposal. Also, when did mattresses become hazardous waste requiring extra money

Yes, moving house is shit, which is partly why we've only lived in 2 houses in 30 years mostly because we can't face the effort of selling up and moving.

You can blame the Tories underfunding councils for not being able to get rid of fridges and mattresses so councils can't afford to take waste for free.

Our council will do one bulk collection per year for free, otherwise it's £30 for up to 4 items. But if you've not even got that facility, it's shit.

The scrap man generally doesn't take fridges because they can't get rid of them. Or they do and fly tip them.

We had a dead dishwasher outside our house and it was taken by the scrap fairies in under 3 hours.

A fridge sat in the same place for 2 weeks because I booked a council collection and they wouldn't walk past my car to pick it up, even though there was more than enough room.

I voted YABU only because vodka is never the answer. Off topic, but look at Russia to see why.

I'd probably be on the gin by this point.

Wow! Where were you when they handed out the empathy? Off somewhere reading a rule book?

Fucking hell, imagine coming on to this thread and blathering on about fridges.
Keep on going OP, if it takes a out of date carlsberg to do so get it down your neck. I hope you are as ok as you can be 💐

Vodka on Cheerios sounds like a great breakfast. Its only the same as drinks and nibbles but all in one bowl.

Or try a banana milkshake with vodka for that healthier smoothie option.

@Twiglets1

Gosh, your lack of empathy is terrifying.

Awww thank you to everyone for the kindness ❤️

I'm just taking a breather from trying to do a bit of cleaning before the very last run of stuff in the morning and handing back the jeys, and am now enjoying a can of gin and tonic kindly provided by a friend who popped round a few days ago.

I split the bottle of liebfraumilch with two other friends who have been staunchly ferrying things around and helping me bag up rubbish.

I've worried incessantly about the bloody skip but there's not much I can do now except apologise profusely again to the company. The last time I used a skip was donkeys years ago and I think as long as .you didn't throw in family members or gas canisters pretty much anything went.I had no idea how tight the rules were these days so I am suitably chastened. Yes, I should have googled, but I was in such a flat spin at that point I just rang the first low cost firm my friend had found, and even when I told them about the fridges they didn't say don't put them in the skip, and I did pay for them. So my bad.

I'm looking forward to my first bath in five years tomorrow night. Old House (as I'm trying to think of it now) only had showers. It will be bliss as the last two weeks have been like bootcamp. On the plus side, I'm definitely a bit fitter and stronger than when I started.

I'll just add that I've been extra frazzled as my elderly Dad had to stay with me for the last five weeks as my SM is very unwell mentally and started physically attacking him so I've been helping him get a council place, which only came through last Friday. This Saturday he's going for a CT scan on the two week pathway. It's all very complicated so fridges in skips have been low priority

But I'm on the home stretch now....

Solidarity and love to those who are members of the widow club, and to everyone else whose been up against it - may be our paths smooth out soon.

Chin chin and sweet dreams ✨️

Holy shit OP, good morning to you, and good luck!

How's it going @MistressoftheDarkSide?

Hope you're settled, located the kettle and doing OK. What a hell of a time you've had, looking after your poor DDad as well.

@HellonHeels

Thank you for asking 😊

I'm in my new flat since Friday, battered, bruised, surrounded by boxes and trying to make sense of the chaos and do all of the necessary admin. Am currently in the mindset of "the next time I move it will be when they carry me out in a box" lol.

Have upgraded to the occasional glass of red when I need to switch off and generally in the evening for those concerned about my morning drinking habits 🤣.

Am still on remote Dad duty - am accompanying him to another hospital appointment tomorrow which will be a bit of a day out.

Just have to persuade my cat that drinking out of the toilet when he has nice fresh water in his own bowl is not a good habit. Other than that, he's loving having a whole flat to roam around after being shut in one room during the moving process for his own safety. He's an indoor cat due to road safety but I do take him out on a lead which I've done since he was a tiny kitten so he's not completely shut in.

So thank you for the support you lovely lot, I have a few more bumps in the road to navigate but hopefully at least I am secure for at least six months....

I have only just seen this thread OP. YWNU to drink that carlsberg.
You’ve had a very shitty couple of years but you’re still battling. I reckon you’re made of tough stuff. You will be fine. Sending positive thoughts and virtual gin, chocolate and flowers.

Awww thank you @caramac04 much appreciated ❤️

It's a remarkably nasty trait that your first reaction to someone who's life has been upended is to be judgemental.

OP, moving is stressful enough in its own right, what you've been through is horrendous and I hope life improves for you. When you're going hell just keep going and take one day at a time.