Was I being rude?

[Chelle87l]

Earlier on today, my husband was in the kitchen making his overnight oats. I walked out into the kitchen and walked back into the living room and I went to close the kitchen door All of a sudden he's shouting don't shut the kitchen door and I asked if he's coming in and he said no so I said well I'm going to close the door and he shouts no your not your just being rude. Please can anyone tell me if I was being rude? Because to me I wasn't! Am I being unreasonable to think that I was not rude .

Why not ask him

i think there's more to this than closing a door...

Well it seems odd to me you'd close the door and shut him in the kitchen.

But we don't close doors between rooms here unless it's the bathroom door or bedroom doors at nighttime.

What an odd overreaction from him, is there more to the story?

it does seem a little rude to me

This is bizarre. Why were you shutting him in the kitchen?

Is "making overnight oats" a euphemism?

But why would you shut him in the kitchen? I would think that was rude

@malmi thanks for the laugh

I don't think you should change someone else environment without checking with them.

Turning on/off the radio, lights, closing doors and windows- especially when you then leave the space <glaresatDH>

Why would you close a door to a room that someone was in and was open when you went in?

What a non event

I hate doors being open, my kitchen door doesn’t shut and it drives me spare. So in my mind you’re not unreasonable but there seems to be more going on…

@Chelle87l

why did you want the door shut?

overnight it's aren't a noisy or smelly activity?

I hate to be in closed rooms, in fact I have several open door ways without doors I don't shut the bathroom door when I'm home alone.

Yes you’re slightly rude. Why are you closing the door on him just get oh with your own thing

Is it like ‘sowing his wild oats’ but they stay in the fridge overnight? 😀

Was there a reason to shut the door?

Depends on the layout of the house and what the norm is in your house. Was there a reason to close the door or to leave it open?

Well fgs...why did he want it open? Why did you want to shut it?

I wanted it shut to keep the warmth in. Perhaps i should have asked if I could close it.

Sounds like there is more to this than closing the door for sure. Have you been getting on ok recently apart from this ? It sounds like it was innocent on your part but sometimes when tensions are high simple acts like this can grate on someone

What strange behaviour.
YABU

Was he speaking at the time? DH has done this when I’m speaking and I called him rude. Turns out the deaf bastard ‘couldn’t hear me’ 🤔

Yeah my DH does that alot, also known as "cockin a deafun" 🤣🤣🤣

Are you in a controlling relationship OP? This in my opinion is a non event to get worked up so much as to post on aibu......? No advice but honesty is normally the best policy Xx