Was I being rude?

[Chelle87l]

Earlier on today, my husband was in the kitchen making his overnight oats. I walked out into the kitchen and walked back into the living room and I went to close the kitchen door All of a sudden he's shouting don't shut the kitchen door and I asked if he's coming in and he said no so I said well I'm going to close the door and he shouts no your not your just being rude. Please can anyone tell me if I was being rude? Because to me I wasn't! Am I being unreasonable to think that I was not rude .

He thought you were closing the door after he told you not to for no other reason than to make a point maybe.

I mean. whereas we close our kitchen door - cooking smells if someone is cooking / noise if they are listening to music in thee / fire risk , and we close all doors in the house for similar reasons, plus of course to keep the warmth in. So I don't think it is strange at all to shut a kitchen door but as others have said, this is clearly not the only thing going on here.

EH?

I have had cats for 20+ years. I can’t remember the last time I was able to shut a door …

Can’t relate to this thread other than picturing your DH as a cat on the other side of a closed door.

He's the one in the room, you shouldn't be closing him in without at least saying why. When he said he didn't want it why didnt you explain or just leave the door?
My abusive XH would shut the door of rooms I was in, no idea why, made me feel shut out from the rest of the house. Even when I said don't he'd still shut the door and wouldn't say a word. Its not a nice way to treat someone.

This is all very odd!

Was the door open when you walked in?

i guess i probably wouldn’t shut a room door if someone was in the room. Or I’d say “oh just gonna close this, that ok.?”

It feels a bit of an overreaction on his part tho. Surely just say oh do you mind leaving that open.

Sounds very aggressive.
Is he aggressive?