help. Feel like I'm in love with DHs best friend

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Aibu to ask what the fuck I should do.

I work with DHs best friend in the same office. However about a year ago as got put onto the same team and now work closely together all day every day.

For the past 6 months or so I've realised that I feel quite inappropriately about him. We get on well, talk all the time at work, laugh etc.. there is no flirting obviously.

I wouldn't act on this ever and I don't want to feel this either.

But what the fuck do I do? I work with this guy every single day and he is my husbands childhood best friend for goodness sake. I find myself in the mornings making more effort to look nice for work and I try and tell myself it's not because of him but I know that it is.

What do I do. Has anyone experienced anything similar and have these feelings stopped?

I love DH and am happy with him. These feelings have blind sided me.

It will definitely pass. I would say never drink alcohol around them e.g. at a work do as that's when you'd end up saying /doing something you could regret.

Affectionately, I think everybody needs to calm the fuck down?

Crushes are pretty normal in a long marriage, in my experience. Just enjoy the harmless fantasy, knowing you will never speak of it or act on it because you love your husband.

Leaving your job would be pretty mental unless you work in some unusual sphere wherein jobs are amazingly easy to come by and trouble-free to switch.

Just stop posting about it on here and thereby making it into something bigger than it is. Is it really the first time in your life you have had a passing fancy for a fella other than your own one? If so , honestly you are unusual.

I quite fancy my husband's best friend if I am honest. He's a lovely bloke, and they both have similar qualities (what makes them such good mates I guess), and if I was single and he was interested, I probably would.

There you go. Do I have to poke my eyes out now in case I ever see him again?

Don't worry about it. Just enjoy the crush. I have a lot of these, it's fun to pass some time daydreaming.

Of course you don’t leave your job ffs 😂😂

You might have just grown very fond of him because you spend time with him every day.
Do you actually fantasise about him?

Time to out up some barriers. Stop being overly familiar and keep reminding yourself about dh

@Ilovelurchers you should probably divorce him just to be sure.

I love this thread, definitely a "mumsnet madness" moment.

No need to answer that it was rhetorical 😁I should have phrased it without a question.

I can't believe people are telling you to leave your husband and your job 🤣🤣🤣.

You've just got a bit of a crush. It happens. Not the end of the world.