Family holiday

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Will try and stick to the facts. Changed name also but on here a lot.

FIL has big birthday end of May, 60. Back in October he said he wanted us to go away together so his two sons, wives and kids. We said back then that we didn't think we could afford it as my job contract is temporary and husband's contract was coming to an end in March. BIL and wife earn a great deal more than us and have multiple holidays a year. We suggested waiting to October half term when we'd hopefully know more about our jobs.

Would your parents or in laws go away with the other sibling anyway and leave the other sibling at home? AIBU and over sensitive or is it piss poor that they are all off on holiday together in August to celebrate and we can't go.

They may not be in a position to pay for everyone. It’s an invite - you choose to accept or decline.

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YABU. You were invited, you declined, which is the reasonable thing to do when you can't afford it. Your job situation is your own problem.

I'd be delighted to be honest, in fact we have used the 'we can't afford it' excuse a couple of times as a reason to get out of these family holidays (it is true up to a point to be fair). Everyone else still went because DH's siblings are loaded, and what happens? They all end up bickering and nobody really has a good time anyway!

I'm with your friend, you've probably dodged a bullet.

His 60th birthday is the end of May. You can't expect him to celebrate it in October on the off chance your employment is more stable then.

Ok, YAB 100% U.

So....
When we're you planning on committing either way

You think you meant??? Do you not know what you meant?
If you are in a position to go now, book it.