To think my little boy is an absolute sweetheart?

[Maythefoursbewithyou]

I don't drink often, almost never because I'm terrible at it. Anyway, a series of strange events yesterday meant that I ended up very much on the sauce and quite pickled when I went to bed at around 3am.
Husband is very asleep and I woke up about an hour ago feeling bloody rotten. My 7 year old came into my bed with a tin of biscuits and a pint of squash and had put ' call the midwife' on my work computer which doubles as the TV for my bedroom. I just couldn't love this kid any more right now. What a little legend he is. I don't deserve him. Currently smashing my way through some custard creams and watching my favourite show with the cutey next to me and feeling so bloody lucky. Lazy day incoming. Anyone else just get blown away sometimes by how nice their kids are and Wonder where it came from?

you have said boys are “much nicer”

and “kinder than girls”

show me a thread then where someone has said they “hate little boys”

Oh i see you today is first day back on mumsnet after a week’s ban…. welcome back 🌷

I didn't wake until 10 yesterday because I was exhausted after a busy week. I didn't wake until 10 two weeks ago because I was out drinking with friends and a bit hungover. Same difference to my kids. They are more than capable of entertaining themselves when a parent needs a rest and I am well entitled to say leave me alone I'm tired today and doing nothing for a while. I run ragged trying to do my best for them since the day they came into this world while they demand demand demand and argue over the very basic chores I ask of them. How on earth is it bad parenting to get a little break once in a while? I'd be much more concerned about the parenting of a 7 yr old who couldn't entertain himself for a few hours to be honest.

his kindness has squat all to do with his gender

give him some credit!

no I don’t voice this to them, as I’ve already said.’
TFFT

Although would indicate that you know it’s a pretty abhorrent view to have on boys and girls

It only takes seconds... My parents had to take me to hospital every day for days on end end for dressing changes after that steam took layers of skin off my inner arm {I was reaching to turn the kettle off }

They just didn't think.

I too said to my son when he was young ''Don't touch the kettle''....
It's shocking how children can get scalded by hot drinks as well.

Thank you for your welcome! Yes I’m back after calling out racism, apparently I have to be kinder to racists 🤣

Yes I do think little boys are kinder than little girls. The way that some of the girls my DD knows have been unkind to her is so above and beyond anything I’ve known a boy to ever do. You don’t agree with me but meh - get over it.

I’d show you a thread but I can’t really be arsed and have no interest in appeasing you. However, bear it in mind and look out for it especially teenage boys threads - they are simmering with absolutely hate

I'd be much more concerned about the parenting of a 7 yr old who couldn't entertain himself for a few hours to be honest.

Totally agree

My 7yo can make cereal himself then parks himself on his PlayStation on a Sunday, which is our family chill day, so we have as long a lie in as we pleased. I’d hate to have a needy child who needed me at all times at that age

OP has said her son doesn’t understand what a hangover is

I knew what drunkeness and hangovers were long before I was 7

Trust me, that kid knows...

Furthermore, to all the pp making up the details as they go along, the op wasn't passed out either. She said she woke up at 7am feeling rotten. Yes, she was hungover, but she was still awake. Her ds was not being neglected. He got some biscuits & pop & snuggled in with his mammee. I'm sure if an emergency had occurred the op's hangover would have been forgotten & the (not hungover) dh would be wide awake to help save their ds.

He doesn’t have a gender. He is male.

And TBH maybe it does maybe it doesn’t but I do find it interesting that the boys his age I know are all kind and thoughtful yet I know so many girls who are unpleasant and mean. Not including my DD. She is kind and thoughtful but not as kind and thoughtful as DS. And that’s OK - she is who she is and I wouldn’t want to change her.

Yes I do think little boys are kinder than little girls.

🤢

Nope.
Not abhorrent.
Honest maybe but not abhorrent.

I happen to think men, as adults, are far above worse humans than women. Something seems to happen between little boys and grown men, or maybe it’s a generational things, who knows. But as adults infinitely prefer the company of women than that of men (as a class)
Is that an abhorrent view?

but by saying little boys are “kinder” and “nicer” than little girls… you are assigning characteristics!

That’s really sad. I remember when DD was a toddler reading about steam burns it really freaked me out and for a long time the kettle loved on a high shelf (before my DH nearly knocked it onto his head like an absolute wally)

But as adults infinitely prefer the company of women than that of men (as a class)
Is that an abhorrent view?

it is a view that doesn’t make sense that’s for sure!

Which is why I said “maybe it is [because he’s a boy] maybe it isn’t”

What a way to derail a thread

To me it feels like he’s seen this happen before, and there’s a weird caring duty vibe… Hope I’m wrong but no idea why your kid would know you were hungover. On the rare instance I’ve felt slightly worse than usual from the night before, my child usually wouldn’t know anything about it and I’d be up and getting on with the usual day.

👀

Only if you’re exceptionally dim maybe. or don’t understand the difference between a child and an adult

@Gingernaut This is one of the ACEs (Adverse Childhood Events) that people seek counselling for in later life. He is a caregiver already and is too independent for a 7 year old

Seriously? He is a caregiver? I really don't imagine counsellors spend their days hearing awful tales of people remembering the day Mum was tired so I gave her a biscuit and she hugged me.

YABVU for eating custard creams. They're vile.

so now you’re saying “maybe”

earlier it was a definitive “little boys are nicer” and “little boys are kinder”

do you see the difference? ( 🤞)

“adults” prefer the company of “women”

okey dokey

No, I said in my experience which is different from claiming it’s objective fact.

You’ve REALLY taken exception to what I’ve said, and it’s derailing the thread so you’re gonna have to find a way to get over it