To think my little boy is an absolute sweetheart?

[Maythefoursbewithyou]

I don't drink often, almost never because I'm terrible at it. Anyway, a series of strange events yesterday meant that I ended up very much on the sauce and quite pickled when I went to bed at around 3am.
Husband is very asleep and I woke up about an hour ago feeling bloody rotten. My 7 year old came into my bed with a tin of biscuits and a pint of squash and had put ' call the midwife' on my work computer which doubles as the TV for my bedroom. I just couldn't love this kid any more right now. What a little legend he is. I don't deserve him. Currently smashing my way through some custard creams and watching my favourite show with the cutey next to me and feeling so bloody lucky. Lazy day incoming. Anyone else just get blown away sometimes by how nice their kids are and Wonder where it came from?

If the 7 year old had needed his mother or father he could have woken them up. You’re being needlessly unkind.

So by ‘passed out’ you mean ‘went to sleep’?

Do you always speak in such melodramatic exaggerated terms?

You make a lot of things up. Why would he likely wake at 7am? My 7yo sleeps in til 9 on a weekend.

At age 7 most kids can get up and entertain themselves if they’re like mine they can get their own breakfast too.

If you are not even letting your kids have 20 minutes alone that’s extremely suffocating parenting

How? Because their child fetched them a drink? It’s nice to hear about kids who are caring and not self centered due to suffocating parenting

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@Robinni

this!! ⬆️

If other people wanna helicopter parent, fine, whatever, reap the consequences of it as I’m sure you will when your kids are older and are useless dependent or inconsiderate humans. But to judge others for NOT helicopter parenting, or not being overbearing, in the same of “they may have a one in a million catastrophic accident, I heard an urban legend of a woman who did one day and her child <insert terrible thing>” is just very shitty. Especially if you’re on other threads moaning about ‘judgmental judy parents’

BTW I am 100% NOT buying that an ambulance wouldn’t be dispatched for a child having a heart attack at 3am.

@YaMuvva

Again, one of mine is disabled so supervision is essential, as for the rest I adhere to guidance. That’s my choice and it isn’t suffocating it’s being conscientious and responsible for their well being.

Because a 7yo child was unattended for several hours with no supervising adult or breakfast provided.

So you are applying completely different standards to other people’s children - why? OP’s child is it disabled so why should they parent them the same way you do yours?

Heavens, when mine were seven, they were capable of pouring juice into a cup and cereal into a bowl.

So. A lot of 7yo’s are clearly competent and fine to do that. We have a gaming room. Sunday is “no rules” child day in our house. My 7yo can be in there for several hours alone. He loves it, it’s great for his independence and he can fetch his own snacks and top his water bottle up.

@Robinni

most 7 years can be just fine unsupervised for a bit and get themselves something to eat as proved by OP’s son. He was just fine.

I’d honestly HATE to have a whiny needy (able/NT) 7yo who couldn’t be on their tod for a few hours. I’d wonder where I’d gone wrong TBH

@YaMuvva

This is not allowing a child to do homework independently or try out rollerblading.

This is leaving a child unattended for the majority of the morning because you decided to get drunk until late into the night.

Please don’t cast aspersions on my children.

Regards the ambulance - have you seen the state of the NHS?!? Do you imagine the ambulance service is free of the impact?!

FYI the average ambulance wait time for heart attacks and strokes in England is 40 minutes.

This thread, talk about neurotic adults catastrophising. What if the child fell down the stairs and broke their back when the parent was asleep hungover, that’s literally the same risk that exists when they go to bed in the night, a child can wander and trip down the stairs when the parents are alseep there too. This thread is arguing in ridiculous extremes and making wild assumptions that OP is a raging alcoholic and her dc is versed in caring for her following another one of her binges. He brought her a glass of squash and a pack of biscuits- good grief.

a child will not starve because they’ve gone to 10am without food. At 7, I’m sure he can manage a bowl of cereal and a glass of water.

It’s bank holiday today I’m t total. My 4 year came into my room at 9, dressed up from her dress up box, presumably she’d been awake for a while, is this neglect too?

@Robinni

10am isn’t most of the morning

@LuckySantangelo35

We get up between 6am -7am…

By 10.20am most of the morning is gone with only an hour 40 until the afternoon, so I disagree.

Please don’t cast aspersions on my children.

But it’s fine for you to cast aspersions onto other children who are absolutely fine and independent?

Im still not buying your heart attack story, at all.

Im not sure you understand the concept of “other people have different circumstances and routines to you”?

Yes exactly, unless you literally stand behind them holding their top they’re breaking their spine anyway wether you’re in bed or in the kitchen cooking.

HOW these people get through the day without a breakdown I’ll never know

@Robinni

a lot of people don’t get up at 6am-7am on a weekend. Surely you must be aware of this?

I'm afraid I'm a fraud @wilteddandelion

I did study algae and small things for a while and find them fascinating but not on a professional basis.

Surely you mean agae and smal tings?

@YaMuvva

I haven’t cast aspersions on anyone’s children at all, I am sure OP’s son is very lovely and thoughtful and capable.

I’ve called into question OP’s behaviour and decision to drink until 3am and to sleep in when no one was available to be awake and mind her child - get a babysitter or ensure your DH takes responsibility, that’s all.

There is no reason for you to be so insulting regarding my kids. You’re just doing it to get a reaction.

You don’t have to buy it, I have no reason to make it up. Whenever I read it I was horrified as like you I didn’t think the ambulance service was as bad, but unfortunately it is and can’t be relied upon. Nor can taxis of a weekend.

@Robinni but you have no idea what time the son woke up. You're literally making all this up.

My son is just 8 and often doesn't emerge from his room until 9:30-10.