To think my little boy is an absolute sweetheart?

[Maythefoursbewithyou]

I don't drink often, almost never because I'm terrible at it. Anyway, a series of strange events yesterday meant that I ended up very much on the sauce and quite pickled when I went to bed at around 3am.
Husband is very asleep and I woke up about an hour ago feeling bloody rotten. My 7 year old came into my bed with a tin of biscuits and a pint of squash and had put ' call the midwife' on my work computer which doubles as the TV for my bedroom. I just couldn't love this kid any more right now. What a little legend he is. I don't deserve him. Currently smashing my way through some custard creams and watching my favourite show with the cutey next to me and feeling so bloody lucky. Lazy day incoming. Anyone else just get blown away sometimes by how nice their kids are and Wonder where it came from?

ah Mum’s not up at breakfast time and is a hungover mess so I’ll have to get her some sugar fixes

Why on Earth would he think “hungover mess” rather than just “mum’s ill”??

I had a hangover a few wks ago - guess what I still got up at 7.30am when they did, fed my DC and took them on a day out because they are my responsibility.

What’s that smell? Oh it’s burning martyr! No one is gonna give you a medal, so what - why didn’t your OH get up?

IMO it’s much better parenting to show your kids you need a lie in/day off sometimes - ie show you’re a normal human with needs and wants - than constantly display martyring like being someone who never puts yourself first is something for kids to aspire to.

While she and DH were lying on the child could have decided to leave the house, could have attempted to cook some hot food for Mum, could have fallen down the stairs and broken his spine.

My god I could never ever raise children whilst having such a neurotic and melodramatic mindset - it’s really not healthy to think this way. I know you THINK you’re doing parenting right but irrational anxieties rub off onto children.
Any of this could happen whilst you’re on the loo. Do you hold it all in until they’re in bed?

I imagine they do what people who don’t actually drive do - get a taxi or a lift

Indigo I’m so sorry you’ve had to endure such ignorant comments. Sadly for so many disabled people, life hasn’t gone to plan and some children do some on young caring but it sounds like you’ve sought all the support you can and you’re doing a great job. Ignore the horrible comments

Jesus Christ are you still around demanding obvious answers from posters?
I’ll give you a clue: children services social work has departments other than child protection.

Why do you think she has a social worker?

I often have Coca Cola for breakfast. What’s wrong with squash? Not everyone drinks hot drinks

Any of this could happen whilst you’re on the loo. Do you hold it all in until they’re in bed?”

I do sometimes think some mums do do this! Or maybe just piss themselves. Cannot be neglecting the children for your own selfish wants like going to the toilet can we?! They didn’t ask to be born and they are your responsibility!!

@steamedisbest

so why are you asking then if you know?

Do you really think Indigo as clueless about disability claims until this thread?!

She HAS PIP. It doesn’t cover the cost of a carer.

But that’s clearly not why you asked why she has a social worker. I see you.

It's enough to hire morning help which is when she says she struggles getting kids ready for school. As her husband leaves for work early. It sounded like she can cope in the day why kids are at school then her husband is home in the evening to take over. Pip wouldn't cover full time care needs but it's certainly enough to fill the gaps.

That’s nothing @LuckySantangelo35 !! Why aren’t you being like me where you follow your children’s every move and stand over them like some middle class grim reaper? And hold their hands while they walk down the stairs? And never let them sleep alone? Granted because I can’t split myself in 2 I’ve sewn all their clothes together to make sure they’re always side by side and they get a bit cross about this but it’s the only way to ensure they don’t have a highly unlikely catastrophic accident!!

On a serious note, the holding hands on the stairs reminds me of a Royal anecdote. Queen Victoria DID actually have to hold her mum’s hand walking down the stairs and her mum slept with her all the way to age 18 when she became Queen. 4 heirs before her had died and they were terrified she’d die too and bugger up the line of succession, so her mum and her mum’s adviser had all these rules (which would have the most neurotic of MN nodding in agreement) about her never being alone, never going outside etc and she very rarely left Kensington Palace in her childhood.

When she turned 18 and became Queen she moved out on her own with her governess and left her mum and adviser behind, rarely went back to Kensington Palace, had a very difficult relationship with her mother and spoke at length about how suffocating the over protection was in her childhood. I bet you a tenner Queen Victoria wished she could have brought her hungover mum some squash rather once than the every day childhood she endured (there’s a sentence I’d never thought I’d type)

Even if that was true (it isn’t, I’m not sure how much you think PIP is) do you think there’s droves of people waiting to take up a one hour a morning care job? Where are these people?

@LuckySantangelo35

Provided someone else is available to be responsible for my children then me having a lie in is fine.

It’s not underestimating it’s being a responsible parent.

@Robinni

at 7 they can pour themselves some cereal and watch telly for an hour on a Saturday morning , they don’t need a responsible parent watching over them like a hawk

Why on earth shouldn't a nearly 11 year old use a kettle!?

@YaMuvva

why didn’t your OH get up?

He had left for work before the kids were awake.

My point is if one parent is absent (OP’s being comatose), then you have to get up and get on with making sure their needs are met. Did the little boy have to have juice and biscuits for breakfast too?!

Regards your criticism of my parenting, one of my children is disabled so I actually do have to consider things such as them wandering and having accidents more so. But even at that I do think it’s better to be conscientious. I don’t let them roam the streets unattended either.

We aren’t supposed to leave them home alone under the age of 12. So why should we be leaving them completely unattended for hours on end without food and supervision?!

Because she’s never used it before and it’s heavy and awkward and easy to have an accident with boiling water

At what age would you consider having a lie in and leaving them to it?

At that age they should obviously still be breastfed so there is no need to touch a kettle

@Robinni

biscuits and juice for breakfast as a one off isn’t gonna do any harm!

or are you one of those people that thinks that a kid needs a cooked breakfast of scrambled eggs or omelette or whatever every morning?

Hope you’re feeling better OP and the cuddles are helping. He sounds a sweetie.

Some of the posters on this thread not so much. But I’m sure they’re polishing their halos