To think my little boy is an absolute sweetheart?

[Maythefoursbewithyou]

I don't drink often, almost never because I'm terrible at it. Anyway, a series of strange events yesterday meant that I ended up very much on the sauce and quite pickled when I went to bed at around 3am.
Husband is very asleep and I woke up about an hour ago feeling bloody rotten. My 7 year old came into my bed with a tin of biscuits and a pint of squash and had put ' call the midwife' on my work computer which doubles as the TV for my bedroom. I just couldn't love this kid any more right now. What a little legend he is. I don't deserve him. Currently smashing my way through some custard creams and watching my favourite show with the cutey next to me and feeling so bloody lucky. Lazy day incoming. Anyone else just get blown away sometimes by how nice their kids are and Wonder where it came from?

Am loving how (on this thread) no-one admits to ever being hungover, despite alcohol threads frequently having people admitting to drinking about 5 bottles of wine a week 😂

Anyways...@Maythefoursbewithyou His such a sweet boy and very mature for 7 years old.I know if he needs anything he will ask you and you would get up.

I completely agree with you and I’m so sorry the sanctimonious posters have made you feel this way.

Mine is thankfully (hopefully) temporary but I’m already feeling the beginnings of this and this thread has been quite upsetting. I’ve had a hysterectomy a few weeks ago and will be undergoing radiotherapy soon. Cancelled holidays, a bedridden mum and no doubt a long summer of not being able to spend quality time with them - not to mention a DH with reduced income as he goes PT for a while to care for me and I live off sick pay means fewer treats and days out, is all about to ensue. Clearly children witnessing a not healthy mum is the equivalent of neglect to some people.

But I will say to you your children are not being destroyed, to learn empathy and care for a loved one is not the worst thing to happen to a child. I need to tell myself this, I know. At least OUR children are not being raised by sanctimonious shitbags.

OMG @IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour you never ever ever thought of just having careers - which are an infinite and readily available, and free commodity - before this comment, right?

What if your child needed you during the night because they were ill, or something happened in the house and you were too pissed to wake up properly - isn't that the issue? You don't say much about your husband except that he is 'very asleep' so was he drinking as well. That's why I can't understand why people seem okay with parents of small children falling into bed poleaxed of a weekend - don't think it's judgmental or sanctimonious to believe that one adult in a house should be sober (or at least not half-cut) when young kids are sleeping there too.

Some people have really showed their true colours on this thread.

A disabled mum explains how inevitably children are relied on to chip in with care and she’s attacked and disbelieved and even asked why she doesn’t have carers. I feel too many posters are deeply unhappy and should get help for themselves jot pick on other vulnerable posters

So your answer was to judge them instead?

I did wonder if it was a typo!

You can’t live your life based on u likely scenarios otherwise no parent would ever sleep.

Im an insanely deep sleeper and uses to sleep through my kids crying as babies. I can’t say I ever worry I won’t be able to wake up if something happened in the night, life’s too short to be so neurotic

He sounds adorable, OP!

Really?? Can't wait until mine are old enough to watch TV whilst I lie in 😂I was thinking more when they're 4 and 6 🤔.

OP your boy does sound lovely ❤️ Mine once plugged his dummy in his friend's mouth, when she was crying. He was only 18 months at the time, I almost died. Hope your hangover is improved!

I was quite often up before my parents when I was 7. It was great, I got to watch cartoons in peace. Never felt neglected.
OP said her son is 7 and had just got up. People are being ridiculous. It was sweet and absolutely nothing worrying or neglectful about it.
You need to read about proper cases of neglect before saying such rubbish.

My aunt always slept in until 10 or after.
My cousins had to fend for themselves for breakfast and getting themselves to school.
When we were grown, my cousin would come to my house and complain about how her mother chomped on her toast and slurped her coffee and snapped the newspaper. She’d describe my aunt in detail. She was visiting from out of state but spent all her time at my house because her mother got on her very last nerve.
It was hysterical and I’m laughing thinking back on it.
Thank you for that memory of my cousin whom we lost to breast cancer.

This.

I’ve had lie ins to this time but always had DH or other family to sort breakfast for young children this age.

He is a sweetheart OP, but the fact he is taking on responsibility for looking after you so young would be concerning to most.

Ps I’ve just read some people commenting about their children being young carers..

I was a young carer and it was harmful - missed out on childhood, left me vulnerable and was very stressful.

I am very resilient as an adult but I’m also very self sacrificing and find it difficult to prioritise my own needs.

I have health issues now and any time my DC say they will look after me or go to do anything for me I am adamant saying “this is not your responsibility, you are a child and mummy is capable”

They do chores as part of the family and help with meals under supervision, DH and other family help me personally where needed.

I realise this may be difficult to read, but having lived it I can honestly say there are long term impacts and anyone without adult family help should be engaging with SS to get appropriate care in place.

It really isn’t ok to leave a 7yo unsupervised and without breakfast until after 10/11am in the day.

Something doesn’t sit right with me here. So your 7 year old was (presumably) up on his own until after 10am, fixing ‘breakfast’ for his hungover mother who never does this?

This wasn’t the first time was it, OP.

Good lord some people on here are unnecessarily nasty aren't they - accusing this person of neglect off the basis of one hangover, some juice, and some biscuits.

Have any of you met a 7 year old? My niece adores being 'helpful' - making me toast, drinks, tidying up etc. She gets a little sense of accomplishment from it - makes her feel grown up.

The kid probably recognized his mum was a bit under the weather - it hardly suggests he sees 'hangovers' all the time he may have even done it just because! It's something my niece would do.

It's also not some crime that she was still asleep past 10am. The child is 7, not a newborn. Again, my niece would be delighted to spring out of bed to get cereal and watch whatever she wanted on TV - unlucky for her, SIL is an early riser.

He sounds lovely OP. You're obviously raising him to be very thoughtful

He was in the pool until 9.30pm, was someone else babysitting him? You’re saying his dad needs sleep after his shifts, but was he left in supervising a child swimming while so, so tired while you were out drinking.

I hope you made him breakfast once you got up. I dread to think what might have happened if he’d attempted to make you a cup of tea rather than a glass of squash…

That's what pip/carers allowance/ attendance allowance is for

Because children shouldn't be carers, it's not their responsibility to sacrifice their childhoods to care for adults when we have a benefit system to prevent this

Judging by some of the responses to my comment that the OP sounds rank, stewing in bed hungover with a 7 year old catering to her, some of you were on the sauce yourselves last night.

I hope you are all #blessed with a pre-teen to look after you with your hangovers today.

@Robinni

he isn’t take responsibility to look after her though h
is he? He bought her some biscuits and juice, big deal

@Moro93

why wouldn’t it be? The boy didn’t exactly make a full English breakfast did he?! Doesn’t sound that experienced in getting up and making breakfast for himself and mum to me

is “glass of squash” a euphemism for “hair of the dog” ie perhaps a bloody mary?

Stop being bitter because people disagreed with you. Hide the thread rather than embarrassing yourself further