To think my little boy is an absolute sweetheart?

[Maythefoursbewithyou]

I don't drink often, almost never because I'm terrible at it. Anyway, a series of strange events yesterday meant that I ended up very much on the sauce and quite pickled when I went to bed at around 3am.
Husband is very asleep and I woke up about an hour ago feeling bloody rotten. My 7 year old came into my bed with a tin of biscuits and a pint of squash and had put ' call the midwife' on my work computer which doubles as the TV for my bedroom. I just couldn't love this kid any more right now. What a little legend he is. I don't deserve him. Currently smashing my way through some custard creams and watching my favourite show with the cutey next to me and feeling so bloody lucky. Lazy day incoming. Anyone else just get blown away sometimes by how nice their kids are and Wonder where it came from?

@duvetdayy yes i agree, very weird behaviour from @steamedisbest and I'm getting a slightly aggressive vibe from their questioning

No, I don't meet the threshold for anything like that. We manage as a family but that includes the kids. This isn't an unusual situation for disabled parents or the many children who are their carers.

I have been told by many professionals that my children having an upbringing involving some caring responsibilities creates kind, resilient, forward-thinking adults. This is honestly the first time I have seen a large group of people insist that basic caring from a child to a parent (ranging from a child bringing water to a teen bringing coffee) is somehow damaging to them.

Regardless, it is what we need to do right now and what has worked for us so far. Some mornings things are really good, sometimes things are not-so-good. The children adapt accordingly.

My husband is up at 5am for work to prevent us falling into abject poverty.

Which is fine because between us, the children and I manage fine.

You are confused. I don't have an almost 18 year old, my oldest child is much younger than that

I don't even know what previous thread they are referring to. I am very new to MN and haven't ever discussed the age of my children before

And what about that sandwich you ate last year on a Wednesday?

You’re being creepy @steamedisbest

There are a few reasons for switching up ID information when posting in a forum.

What a weird, weird thread.

Isn’t it? It’s a nice sunny Sunday in the real world. What is going on?!

ffs a woman, a mother, had a hangover. She says herself it’s a one off! What IS the big deal?! Stop being martyrs ladies!!

Given there's another thread about a woman whose hung over DH used to piss on the floor....I can't muster up the desire to outrage, tbh.

Have you tried applying for pip I know easier said then done.

Quite.

It's not crime of the century but I did read the OP and think what a rank little story it was - stewing in bed hungover with a pile of biscuits and 7 year old bringing a pint of liquid to gulp down.

As I said, not a huge deal but a bit problematic you thought this was a sweet little story to share.

I get PIP and would love to live in an economy where it could be used for things like carers but honestly, it just about tops up our income to a reasonable amount.

Anyway, it doesn't matter, there are thousands of parents like me with children who have to perform some basic caring duties. Thats why 'young carers' are a recognised thing.

This idea that 7 year olds will be deeply damaged by pouring a cold drink and carrying a packet of biscuits to spend the morning in bed is utterly laughable. Lots of children thrive in this country with far more intensive caring responsibilities than that and yes, they do thrive.

So you thought you'd do a rank little post exposing your rank little personality to match?

during covid

i was in the thread about 18 year olds the other day

and you said your son was only a little bit younger?

@steamedisbest both my dh & i had to work during covid,

@Vistada Overreaction from you, love. I'm just not a fan of portraying parentification as 'sweet'. Because it's not.

read the post fgs!

Pp said her 8 year old had to do breakfast and lunch for siblings during covid

i enquired where 13 year old was given yesterday the op posted on a thread about 18 years olds that her son was I my son who is just a bit younger than the OP's.

and i was wondering where dh was in the mornings, nothing to do with covid, which the op has answered

I said that because he is incredibly well learned and well read for his age. Must be all the stifling from those awful carer activities he has to do. He has the mind and conversation of a child much older than his years, which I'm sure will do him well when hes crying in a psychiatrists office because he has had to bring me water and coffee in the mornings or walk his little sister to school.

Anyway, none of this has anything to do with either conversation. My children who range between 6 and mid-teen, all have carer duties that they do without fuss, without worry and as far as I am aware, without permanently damaging them.

I would even go so far as to say that parents who don't push their children into some independence as early as possible, are in fact risking their childrens ongoing happiness.

@steamedisbest calm down fgs 🤣

@Holluschickie

I know right! men get away with so much more! But when it’s a woman who’s had a bit too much to drink there is mumsnet outrage!!

This isn't an example of parentification. Would a child brining a drink up to a paren with diarrhoea and vomiting be parentification to you?

We're not talking about neglect, alcoholism or a child forced to raise others, or bear adult hardships and responsibilities - simply because mum slept in once and had juice brought up.

thanks for telling us what your DH did during covid though 😆