Hi. I’m just after a bit of perspective of this matter. So I’m currently on a weekend away with my husband, our kids and our extended family eg my parents, sister, brother, nieces nephews etc. We are staying in a rather large house and we have all paid different amounts based on the size our family and the rooms
we need/want eg for me it’s me my husband and our two (older adult) children. Before booking I explained to my sister (who made the booking) that I’d like a room with an en suite as I want my own toilet for rather particular reasons that I won’t go into on here. She said this would be fine as she wasn’t bothered which room she slept in. We decided our parents would sleep on the ground floor and we sorted the kids bedrooms
which left two double bedrooms one with an en suite and one without.
Seeing as I’d already discussed my request for a bedroom with a toilet I assumed that when we arrived that all wouldn’t fine but shock horror no. Our parents where given the biggest bedroom on the ground floor as my sister insisted that our mother (63 years old and otherwise healthy) couldn’t be expected to climb the stairs to the toilet. I thought nothing of it as I’d been assure i’d be ok to have the other bedroom with an en suite but when we arrived (all excited as the house is beautiful) my sister’s husband legged it upstairs and abruptly announced that the bedroom i thought was for me and my husband was the they wanted. I didn’t no what to say and my sister later uttered something about the fact her husband was stubborn and that I’d be ok in the other room.
But I’m not ok in the other room.
My very capable and young (ish) parents are in the huge room on the ground floor away from all the kids. My sister and her husband are on the same floor as the kids but at the opposite end of the house with privacy and mine and my husbands bedroom is next to my niece and nephews bedroom all of whom are younger than our kids and incredibly noisy. So much so I’ve left my husband (who can sleep through a hurricane) in bed and I’ve come downstairs to sleep on the couch in the living room away from everyone. I couldn’t get to sleep with the kids next door who were talking loudly and had their tv on.
I know it probably sounds travail but I’ve paid a lot of money to come on this weekend break and I feel like I’ve well and truly been shafted. When I come to think about it I shouldn’t be surprised as when it comes to my family my needs are often ignored. I’ve not made a big deal about it but I’m dreading the sleeping arrangements all weekend plus I now have to share a bathroom with young children who (rather understandably at their age) aren’t particularly hygienic and make a lot of mess. It’s sensory hell for me but I darnt kick up a fuss as I expect I’ll then be accused of ruining the holiday. Thoughts?
Just to add, I know that I was ridiculous to not stand up for myself and demand the room that had been agreed was mine but I have anxiety and I am not at all good with confrontation.