Name changed for this.
It's a long one so please bear with me.
My husband has an employee who has worked for him for years. We are close to him and his wife and by extension know their family quite well. Their son has a girlfriend (we'll call her Jane) and they have a DC the same age as our youngest DC. With children the same age Jane has become an acquaintance. We attend some of the same toddler groups etc.
Over the course of the last year two things have become clear. She is fraudulently claiming benefits and is smoking weed regularly, in the same way a smoker would smoke a regular cigarette.
Jane claims full benefits as she gave up work after having DC. Her boyfriend has all his mail delivered to his parents home and she claims she lives alone with DC. He works full time on an adequate income (around £30,000) and lives with Jane and their DC as a family in a council property. Jane also does a few shifts each week cash in hand.
Yesterday she popped round so DCs could play together and not only rolled and smoked a joint in my garden she then got in her car and drove home with DC. Safe to say she won't be coming round again.
Am I being unreasonable to be extremely annoyed by this woman and to hope she gets caught out?
Drink driving and drug driving should be zero tolerance. It's just disgusting behaviour and endangers her DC and any others using the roads when she is.
The benefits system should not be being abused in this way. I am a SAHM to 3 young DC and my husband is a higher rate tax payer. I gave up work to stay home and we made changes to our lifestyle to accommodate that. Why should some people get away with getting the best of both worlds by cheating the system. A system that is hard enough for genuine claimants to get proper support.
I've been stewing so need some perspective.