date a funeral director?

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That's it really - aibu (not me actually but a friend) to think this would feel weird, especially if they live above their work?

Just feels a bit odd.

And doesn't have noisy neighbours downstairs.

Wouldn't bother me at all.

Of course I would, it’s a job at the end of the day, and one that is an essential service. If you feel weird about it then don’t go, I’d be fascinated to learn more

I wonder if there's a security element to this. People are arseholes and will break in and steal from anywhere. The thought of someone breaking in when it's your loved one being looked after there would be really upsetting. Treating the dead with dignity and supporting their bereaved friends and family is a vocation. I think I'd struggle to do it, but I am so very grateful for those who do.

Definitely this. One of my friends is a former funeral director and is one of the most thoughtful, decent men on the planet.

Yabu i can't think of any other job that's as safe as this. They will always be in business unless the scientists find a pill which extends our life's forever!

Can you explain why you’d feel weird about it?

This would be a green flag IMO because they have a job which requires a lot of empathy and compassion.

The fact that he lives above his workplace is a non issue and a short commute is what we all hope for in a job.

I would absolutely love it and would just pop home for lunchtime!

Sounds like he’s a good catch so far.

Are you perhaps feeling a bit jealous?

At least his downstairs neighbours will be quiet.

YABVU

Respectable line of work, living above workplace is no biggie imo.

Wears a suit and will never be unemployed, can talk to strangers with empathy and good at logistics, whats not to like?

Absolutely! They'll never be out of work 😊

DH was an undertaker. It's not like they take Thier work home with them. Almost dated one previously too.

What do you think is going to happen - that they'll wake in the night and come stomping up the stairs?

I have started work this year for a fd, part time for beer money. The men I work with are normal, balanced, in fact I would say more caring and emotionally balanced that most guys.
The young man who part owns the company is in his 20s, good looking, really compassionate, has an interesting and glamourous hobby, is wealthy, has a great work life balance....if I was 30 older younger and gay, I'd go for him! The good news for the local ladies is he isn't gay either.

I'm in the minority, no I wouldn't, just because I'd find it creepy. Going off topic I once viewed a house with a FD in sight and I couldn't of lived near.
I know it's awful because someone's got to it and we all end up there but just no while I'm alive.

Reminds me of a blind date I had years back. Friend of mine had a habit of agreeing to meet up with me and then would show up with a new boyfriend and would bring a friend along for me too (very nice of her, right?).

So got talking to this one guy and he mentioned the very old fashioned family business and that his flat was upstairs from the funeral home and so it was nice and super quiet (ha ha ha).

And then he started to get a bit friendly, snuggling in and asked if I wanted to go back to his and said he'd give me an "after hours tour" of the place. And then mentioned that the prep area was in the basement and how nice the feel of cold marble was if one wanted to lay on the prep table..... Ah, no thank you!

Grave decision

I'd only be concerned if he was forever giving me flowers.

It might feel a bit strange if they live above the Chapel of rest but obviously the occupants will not harm you 👀

Theres a family run funeral directors around here and the brothers are very attractive, especially in their suits. I would date them.

This!!!

This is what I would worry about!

I live next door to a funeral director. One of the staff lives in the flat above the premises. I think this is quite normal for a few reasons. Late night call outs, alarms going off if there’s an issue with the fridges, burglary. The business owner said he would always want a member of staff living there. I think they get the rent at peanuts.

Yabu and sound like you're about 12.

So, he must what? Defile the bodies at midnight? I'm sure he's nicer than you

It’s not you who’s dating him.

And do you think every funeral director is some sort of necrophile perv?

If you’re/your friend is uncomfortable with the actual area where the bodies go then you don’t have to go there.

His flat being close to it is a non-issue.