To tell the nosy cow to mind her business?

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Started a new job, colleague started just one month before me and she’s so competitive with who’s doing better. I personally couldn’t care less,

Now she’s just randomly messaged me asking if I’ve passed probation. It’s none of her business. If I wanted to share confidential informations about myself then I will.

I'd simply reply MYOB.

This!!!

You still haven't said why she has yr number though

Ignore her.

Yep, she's a nosey cow but maybe insecure too.

Just Ignore.

Does it even matter?

We live in the same city (majority in the company don’t live in that area) and had to travel 4 hours for a meeting. We swapped numbers to car share.

Why are you so obsessed with being messaged by a colleague on a Thursday evening?

There are so many work places where colleagues get along well enough to do something this mundane, and think nothing of it.

If it's not your sort of thing that's fine, but you're trying to make it sound like it's wildly unusual for everyone else too.

Just ignore it obviously. If she knew how prickly you come across I'm sure she wouldn't have bothered.

Well obviously it matters as she wouldn't have been able to text you if she didn't have yr number

Maybe after spending 4 hours together in a car she hopes she has moved on from just being a nosey cow.

My colleague and I message each other all the time about ‘mundane’ work things. But we get on really well and I’d hate to work with someone who calls colleagues a ‘nosy cow’ behind their back.

Are you always so quick to anger and insults?

Not much is adding up. You barely chat or talk to her yet you’ve spent car journeys together?

I just wouldn't answer messages like that, especially in the evening.

If she's messaged you privately then you're not obliged to answer.

Actually just realised who the OP is.

Should've checked before replying 🤦‍♀️

It's not a personal question really

Chill tf out

I thought she'd asked your bra size or something 🤣

I wouldn’t say that was a work related query, It’s a friendly enquiry about your probation period that a friend or family member might also ask. Not a question about spreadsheets or sales forecasts.
You shared a long car journey together and started around the same time, she’s just being friendly. Jeez.

OP calls it both a personal question and a work question

It can't really be both

She has misjudged your 'friendship'. She sees it as a friendly message to someone she thought she was getting on well with. You see it as a work message out of hours from a nosey cow.
I imagine she would be embarrassed if she knew how you felt about her and wouldn't have sent it.

Just tell her your skills are such, that probation doesn’t apply to you.

😂 I bet you’re a barrel of laughs to share a car with…

I feel sorry for your collague

I can just imagine the 4 hours journey

"How are you finding the job?"
"Don't ask me personal questions about work. In fact we should sit in silence for the 4 hours because you're a nosey cow"

You seem a bit aggy OP.

Also you didn't say she'd messaged you outside of work hours in your OP, I think most people (naturally) assumed it was during work time, which has likely formed the basis of some of the answers.

Perhaps she wants to be mates? Although I can't imagine why.

I don’t think this would really bother me at all. It might just be that she is trying to be kind asking? You of course don’t have to be friends with everyone at work, but it is wise to not burn bridges either unless it’s for really good reason. Unfortunately saying she is a nosy cow for asking if you passed your probation makes you sound a bit mean so it will rub a lot of posters up the wrong way, especially as I’m sure a lot of us have asked similar in small chat to be polite, usually if the person says yes most would congratulate you and express delight that you were staying on.

Surely the only time that question would cause grief is if you were in doubt that you would make it through your probation

Yeah I was thinking this, sounds like protesting too much

Same, we started together and have mutual interests. Don't most people make friends at work? Good grief, I can't get rid of some of my ex-colleagues (not that I want to!)

Oh Fgs, you are so over dramatic. Deal with it like an adult. You can simply ignore it or respond saying you don't want to say. But the need to make an issue and create a post 🤦‍♀️