To think he would rather this.... then actually see me in person.

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Been together for just over a year and lately has has started asking for a "photo" of me (you can guess what kind). I haven't sent him one as I would rather see him in person.

However, he seems more interested in a photo than actually seeing me in person?

Can anyone help me with reasons why he would be thinking that way?

I know there is noone else before anyone suggests that however I can't see any benefit of him having a photo over seeing me in the flesh?

Your thoughts would be appreciated.

Cut contact and block immediately

not clear to me if you have ever actually met him person? If not then you haven’t been together for a year.
Sexy photos can haunt you forever. Decline, decline, decline. And maybe run.

Oh come on now, you know what he wants it for. Why do men usually look at naughty pics?

Whatever his reasons, please don't do it, it could end very badly - for you.

Apologies, yes we have seen eachother in person. We met in person and have a sexual relationship.

Yes, I know what he wants it for but he seems to want that over seeing the real thing as in me in the flesh iyswim.

Well, when he sees you he has to travel to you, talk to you, and go through the motions of being on a date, making sex at least plausibly enjoyable for you etc etc. If you send him a naked photo, he can just wank and skip all the preliminaries associated with the presence of an actual other human being.

I'm not sure I can think of anything more off-putting that a man pestering for a wank fodder photo.

At best it's just for his own personal use, but you can't control that photo or who sees it once you've sent it.

I'd have to dump him.

Why does it matter? If he wants pics rather than to see you in person he's not worth it whatever the reason.

How often do you see each other and are you long distance in any way? Could it be that he’s wanting the pics of you in between seeing you if it’s quite some time in between?

Don't do it. Seriously, don't.

I’m confused about why a photo means he would see you less?

I don’t mind sending pics to my BF and he sends me some too - nothing too graphic but it’s a nice reminder of what I’m missing while we’re apart! I 100% trust him not to share them - he’s more worried about that than I am tbh! And I wouldn’t send anything I would be ashamed to end up in public - eg only when I look good in a nice bra etc. However if he wasn’t also keen to see me in person I’d feel a bit reluctant about sending it or indeed perusing a relationship at all. What makes you think he’s not keen to see you?

He wants an orgasm without the effect of bothering to see you. The reality is that he’s not going to be doing anything different than at the moment, except perhaps wanking to a picture of you rather than whoever is using for at the moment.

Once told a new bf I was having a bath. He asked for pics. I sent one of the taps. He has never asked again now he is a dh.
Yabu to agree. Wank fodder quickly becomes sent to his mates or online imo.

He can show photographs to his friends. He can put them online and gain status with other (pervy) men by doing so. I agree with @Dita73 , cut contact and block.

Don’t send a photo, he could share it anywhere. I think he is relegating you to the wank bank OP.

Send him a photo of you scowling and holding a sign that says NO FUCKING WAY.

Thank you all. Although I do still wonder why he is so eager for this photo when he can have it in RL when he wants.

I don't think he would put it online or send to friends. Although I'm not taking that risk either way. Plus I would not show my face even if I were to send one.

Because a wank is easy and quick, and he doesn’t have to bother being nice to you first of all or pleasuring you.

But the question is why ask for pics for a wank when there is a world of porn out there? If he likes OP enough to want to wank over her instead of anyone else why doesn’t he want to see her in person?

One for the wank bank basically.

I concur with previous posts. Don’t do it.

But the question is why ask for pics for a wank when there is a world of porn out there?

Because he could use it against her in some way when she displeases him, as he sees it. Or just for shits and giggles.

When was the last time you met up with him in person?

It has been 2 months now albeit we have both been busy but I don't believe he has been trying very hard to see me. However he has been trying very hard to get a photo iyswim.