So so sick of antisocial selfish people

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Travelling in a big city today and every train or bus I’ve got on there’s been some selfish arsehole on FaceTime/watching something on their phone with no headphones/carrying out a loud phone conversation oblivious to everyone else. Despite putting in headphones myself none of this was drowned out.

I’m already tired and grumpy because my selfish neighbour decided instead of keeping me awake with the smell of weed, they would invite their loser mates over and play music because clearly none of them had to get up at 6 for work today.

I can’t afford to move and I need to get from a to b but I’m sick and tired of other peoples selfish behaviour impacting on me. The stress of it really gets to me but I feel powerless to do anything about it 🤬

Right it sucks but you can't control other people Anker sound core noise cancelling headphones and an air purifier might help with your current issues.

You’re right of course but why should I spend money to alleviate others people’s behaviour? At the risk of sounding old and narrow minded, what the hell has happened to manners and consideration for others?

Vent away OP, I'm here to commiserate. Was on a bus a couple days ago sat next to a woman having a FaceTime conversation without headphones. She ignored my dirty looks. Then heard through the speakers the sounds of bus doors opening and closing (the beeping) so it was one asshole talking to another.

I contemplated blasting music out of my phone so that she couldn't hear, but then I'd be torturing everyone else

People have always done these things, it’s not new. Arseholes have always existed.

It's entitlement and self-absorption manifesting as Main Character Syndrome. Their life is a reality show and we are merely extras.

I'm afraid I have lost my shit on two occasions with people who do this. Once with a man in a hotel restaurant at breakfast time, and once with a man on a train. The shock at having a short fat post-menopausal woman going batshit at them seemed to do the trick.

For some very dense types the rise of Social Media has created the feeling that everyone is interested in viewing/witnessing/interacting with their boring mundane shit. I find it's the most dense or arrogant from one particular age range. If everyone on the bus could immediately 'unlike' the behaviour and remove device until exit of journey it might help.

YANBU. I agree, every bus and train any time of day has someone not using earphones as well as at bus stops, stations, in queues, in the supermarket or other shops, in the street, in any eaterie less formal than 2 Michelin stars, starched tablecloths and - alleluia - hushed tones. I tend to ask them whether they have earphones as long as they don't look as if they will murder me. Women tend to look embarrassed and turn off phone or put in earphones, some scream in my face to fuck off. Men will almost exclusively say something insulting and sexist like fuck off little bitch then get off or change carriage at the next station. Women tend to be young (16-30) whereas men tend to be in their 40s or 50s.

The other thing I find arseholey is puffing out huge clouds of stinking vape on captive breathers e.g. while waiting to cross the road at a crowded crossing, while waiting for bus or train in a big crowd squished into a small area, in a closeknit queue e.g. cashpoint, outside bakery. Or indoors in public spaces like lifts, toilets, stations.

Yes people have always been arseholes but the audio capacity of mobile phones and the invention of vapes have increased the frequency of selfish, unpleasant behaviour in public places where we often don't entirely 'choose' to be (public transport to work, supermarket, etc.)

I worry about children including my own seeing this behaviour everywhere and believing it to be normal.

I think it is worse. I cannot bear it. They all think we are interested in whatever they are shouting down the phone. And we are not.

I lived with really noisy neighbors and that was the bit that tipped me over.

Rant away, people can be so incredibly selfish. I often go lane swimming in the morning. There is always someone powering up and down the lane, often with no real technique, nearly drowning everyone else or crashing into them. Or then the others, who will not admit they need to go in the slow lane and so hold everyone else up with no thought to just letting people pass them which is simple to do. Why can't people just show some care and consideration for others? When did society become only about what I want to do?

I think whatever party gets in at the election needs to prioritise a 'good manners' campaign because some people seem to have forgotten how to live in a society.

I had to endure this in a hospital ward a few months ago. FaceTime, YouTube, etc being blared around the ward. I ended up buying noise cancelling headphones for my own sanity when I was readmitted a few weeks later.

I feel your pain but some decent noise cancelling headphones will ameliorate it.

I have got pixel buds Pro, also previously owned Sony link buds S and would recommend both.

People have always done these things, it’s not new. Arseholes have always existed.

Arseholes have always existed but the thing about playing music without headphones is new. A whole generation has grown up for whom the concept of personal space doesn’t exist.

I do think it’s bizarre. Thirty years ago everyone knew it was unbelievably invasive to inflict music or entertainment on people who hadn’t sought it out. It happens so routinely now that I wonder what the parents of those kids have taught them.

Vent away. I take at least two busses in London a day and it’s pretty much every single journey.

one of my favourite moments was when a driver lost his ever loving shit and screamed at a woman for blaring some shite on speaker.

Conversation on bus shocker!!

Maybe they never took off here (I didn't live here until after walkmans) but did you not have boom boxes in the 80s?

Yup, I'm so thankful I rarely have to use public transport, because on the odd occasion I do now, I see what society has become. So many entitled arseholes.

In salon getting nails done, woman walks in to ask for an appointment, whilst on FaceTime full volume call. Unfortunately for the rest of us, there was an appointment available and she continued her bitchy conversation loudly, throughout her being there. Just why?? They were slagging off family members and all I could think was- I might know who you're discussing- haven't you got any pride?

I have a friend who leaned over and hung up the phone of a person who was having a raging argument with someone on loudspeaker on a train. I have always admired her brass balls.

It's definitely got worse. I don't really use public transport much these days but commuted by train a lot when I was younger and it really just wasn't this bad. Went on a train the other day and was genuinely shocked by the behaviour. Same train I always used to get into Liverpool, just full of people with main character syndrome, whereas once upon a time it'd maybe be one or two every now and again.

Once in a blue moon walking down a street. Not on buses

what?

I completely agree, it’s so annoying. The other week I was waiting for my train and my 11 month old had just gone down for a nap in his pram. Some rude woman sat right next to us when there were other seats available and started watching videos on her phone at full volume. I was seriously tempted to take the phone off her and throw it onto the train tracks. Some people are just so self absorbed and have absolutely no consideration for others.

The most amusing thing I've heard on speakerphone on the bus was someone using the automated banking service. Called their balance out and everything