To ask if you put kisses at the end of messages

[bamboofield]

Even to people you barely know?
I've noticed a lot of people do this, how do you feel about it?

all so sad - i would never do that to anyone other than my oh, blings gc, kids etc

Often yes, depends who to, and how they've written to me. I don't really think of it as "I want to kiss you", more like a modern form of "end transmission". (Which reminds me of the film Jumpin' Jack Flash; showing my age there).

I hate this so much. I hate the passive aggressive pressure that comes with it and the implication that if you don’t do it you are a cold, horrible person, and most of all I hate that sometimes I cave and do it, and I actually resent the people who do it all the time for perpetuating it. It feels as though we are regressing as a culture because we can no longer interpret the sentiment behind words without great big non-verbal cues. And you know what I’ve noticed? It’s a British thing. Americans don’t do it. We have managed to introduce and embed a custom that is too saccharine and unnecessary for the US to bother with. Brilliant.

No. I used to but an American told me one kiss means you want a hug, 2 kisses a kiss, and 3 kisses you want sex.

I was horrified and stopped doing them immediately.

After that, it just started to look tacky and dumb. I think it makes a person appear simple. Especially when they use them in place of proper punctuation.

What a waste of time to put xxx on the end of everything, if nothing else!

Yes I do judge people. Tacky

Only if I mean it. I'd never write an 'Okay, see you Saturday Xx' type of message if we were arranging to go out somewhere, for example.

The flirtatious nature of them do not sit with me at all. Red flags if a man puts kisses to me. I'm a happily married woman and it gives me the ick.

Only to my loved ones.

No, not usually.
To friends and family I do. I have done by accident to other people but not deliberately.

Emojis are fine. Kisses sound weird/creepy/horribly forward/flirty unless it's someone you'd actually kiss.

If in any doubt always avoid.

Yes to friends and family, but not at work (although I sometimes do it by mistake out of habit!)

I've posted about this before. I live outside the UK, and I can tell the difference between British women who have just moved out here and those who have lived here for a while - the newbies stick all these fake kisses on the ends of every message (in our local social media groups), then they stop after a while as they realize nobody else here does it.

I know it doesn't really mean anything, but there are times when I've had to forcibly remind myself (when reading a message from a British women in the UK) that "She's probably quite intelligent really, it's just the kisses on the ends of her messages that make her come across as being a bit dippy."