To think this is a dumpable offence?

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Not been with my boyfriend long (3months ish) and last night we went to the pub to meet with my group of friends for the first time (mix of genders as partners are there too).

My boyfriend lives 20 mins from me but wouldn’t have had any reason to come to this area before meeting me. He bumped into an old female friend at the pub who I believe is an ex of one of his friends.

Anyway they both kept going out for a smoke and each time they were out there ages chatting. I felt so embarrassed that he spent more time with her than he did with me and my friends.

For reference my boyfriend isn’t the shy anxious type, so it wasn’t that he was nervous.

That's not 70%! That's not even 50%!!

Sounds low effort, he obviously didn't have any interest in making a good impression on you in terms either how he might fit into
your life, I'm guessing he views you more as a fling/bit if fun than anything longer term.

Well I’ve messaged him to end it so doesn’t really matter now.

Good for you, OP. That was shit behaviour by him. And how the hell does it take that long to have a smoke?!
If he was keen to make a good impression with your friends and make you happy he would have been back in much sooner than that.

This!!

Hope you are ok op just seen you finished it xx

Maybe he found integrating with a bunch of your friends stressful?
I would.

Yes, I had an ex boyfriend who would do the same. Invite me out to work or informal dinners or pub events.

Then leave me with his friends and colleagues for long time. I knew he didn't want to talk to me.

It was super strange... anyway they were other things but they all added up and I realised I was not happy.

Don't wait to work these things out.