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I walked in on my boyfriends friend watching adult content

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Xmasvibes · 19/05/2024 12:13

Hi, I have been with my current partner for 4 years. His best friend of 9 years has been in a 2 year relationship but they argue and break up every single weekend.

this results in his friend being parked outside my house, sometimes in the early hours of the next day. I told my partner I do not want to get involved with his friend and his girlfriends arguments as every single time I reply to her messages I just get dragged into the drama.

his girlfriend will hound my phone asking for his whereabouts ect voice note after voice note and call my phone. Basically they are both ALOT at times. But don’t get me wrong we do get on at times.

i allowed my partner have his friend stay at my house last night on the sofa . We all had a little drink, as I walked past his friend he put his arms around my waist not holding me but he placed his hands there. I thought it was a bit weird but I just chose to ignore it.

I woke up this morning, I went downstairs to get a drink and my kitchen is connected to my living room so no choice but to go into the living room. His friend was asleep but porn hub was on the tv. I immediately went to tell my partner but he just laughed it off. I just find that weird, idk but my boyfriend doesn’t see it as a problem. Am I overacting ?? We are all 25 years old

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Xmasvibes · 19/05/2024 20:00

Arewethebadguys · 19/05/2024 12:46

Weird AF. There's an expectation in my house that guests don't watch porn/enjoy their own body in my living room! I wouldn't let that creep stay over at my house again and I'm fairly liberal when it comes to most things.

Honestly I’ve sat and thought about it all day long and it’s so disgusting he literally has a phone so I don’t even understand 1) why watch it on my tv 2) why do that full stop

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Xmasvibes · 19/05/2024 20:01

Yeah as soon as I woke up. Whole room got a good clean

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Aquamarine1029 · 19/05/2024 20:04

I really hope you start wanting better for yourself, op. Your boyfriend's reaction to all of this is a massive red flag. Raise your standards and stop putting up with shit behaviour and juvenile drama.

InheritedClock · 19/05/2024 20:06

Xmasvibes · 19/05/2024 20:01

Yeah as soon as I woke up. Whole room got a good clean

Maybe make your boyfriend clean up after his wanking friend?

NotTooOldPaul · 19/05/2024 20:13

Cyclebabble · 19/05/2024 13:51

I would not be happy with this at all. It is very disrespectful to you and I am concerned that your DP appears to enable this visitor. You are entitled to be respected and safe in your own house. I do not think I would have him to stop over again.

I am a man and I 100% agree with this.

Gcsunnyside23 · 19/05/2024 20:44

I would tell the mate yourself he's not staying at yours again. Your bf doesn't seem to care that his mate was wanking in his sofa 🤮 but you don't need to accept it. Tell him that's the sort of thing you do in your own home and to bloody stay there

mountaingoatsarehairy · 19/05/2024 20:52

Ditch these losers OP

LL1991 · 22/05/2024 16:03

Came back here after I’d voted… amazed that 33% of people thing YABU 😵

Bearpawk · 22/05/2024 17:12

I'm pretty relaxed about porn but I'd be pretty disgusted with that

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