Leaving the tumble dryer/washing machine on when going out

[DustyLee123]

I came home the other day to find that DH had left the tumbler/washing machine on and gone out for 30 minutes or so.
It makes me so mad that the house could have burned down due to his laziness, yet I get looked at like I’m nagging.
And we both know a couple whose garage went on fire due to the tumbler being left on.

YABU - stop nagging and be grateful he did some washing.
YANBU - everyone knows you don’t go out and leave the tumble dryer on.

You can Google the number of each type of fire and the number of households in the UK to work the % out. Around 650 fires out of about 28m households.

I'm really not bending my life far out of shape by only using my appliances when I'm home. Talk about an exaggeration!

If you choose to take that risk, that's absolutely down to you but don't think those who don't are just sitting at home hovering over our appliances in case they catch fire! It works for me to use these things when I'm home, no shape bending necessary!

@Tiredandfedupofit I wasn't taking about you specifically.
There are plenty of people whose laundry cycles and home presence don't overlap as well as you manage.
The bending out of shape was a reference to people for whom they would have to significantly, and not easily, alter things to achieve what you readily manage.
Didn't imagine you were hovering over your appliance, not sure where you got that idea from.

My wondering out loud where we draw the line on risk from 'too high to conscionably accept any exposure to it' to 'pragmatically I'm going to have to accept this risk in my life because avoiding it creates appreciable difficulties' seems to have been taken awfully personally by you. 🤷🏾

Of course I do. That’s very obvious, we all make our own choices and take our own risks in every aspect of life. I’m also pointing out that plenty of people will be like me, dealing with disabilities and health issues or life stages that create extra laundry and may need separate washes and so are in a bit of a catch 22. Telling them to take their own risks doesn’t offer anything but guilt tripping, which is a bit silly when you don’t know what difficult choices and risks they may already be juggling at home.