Get DS a new bed or not?

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DS Just turned 13.

He got this bed in Feb 2021 as he shared a room with his brother and this was the best way for him to have desk space.

Last year we moved house and brought the bed with us. He has his own room now.

His brother recently upgraded his PC set up and gave DS2 his old desk.

So DS2 now has a desk set up in the corner of his room.

DS2 has asked for a normal bed.

He said he doesn't like climbing up to go to bed anymore.
That he doesn't need the underbed desk and he would just prefer a normal bed so when his friends come round they can sit on it like a couch.

DH says there's nothing wrong with the bed (True, apart from it being a bit duffed up from being a white bed and having been reassembled)

I think we should get him a normal bed

It would be much easier for me changing the sheets too.

But DH said we spent almost £600 on it a few years ago and he should keep it as resale is poor on them and it's not in pristine condition to sell so would probably end up being given away or tipped.

It's also a wardrobe so would have to spend money on a wardrobe too.

If you can afford it I'd get the new bed, I can see it being annoying climbing up there and agree a normal bed would better for friends to sit.

I think they are quite babyish tbh

It's a pain but I'd probably just get him the new bed. It doesn't have to cost a lot, and I take his point that he just wants a normal bed for his mates to sit on. It's a sensitive age.
You can try selling the other thing and if it doesn't sell some family really in need will be very grateful of it if you freecycle it.

I’d get him a new bed if you can afford it. Maybe for Christmas? With a new theme?

You need to see the £600 in the context of moving house. It’s a tiny proportion in the grand scheme and his high bed doesn’t make sense anymore so if you can afford it you should just replace it. The £600 has gone any keeping the mattress and spending a couple of hundred on a new frame makes sense in my opinion.

Also you could try freecycle/second hand yourself for a bed and wardrobe? You never know you might be lucky.

Sell the bed, consider 2nd hand for the replacements

get him a new bed

Yes cost isn't really a huge issue, I mean we're not well off but have enough in savings to buy a 250 quid normal bed.

He can use his mattress.

I think they're babyish too and he's growing up!

DH just thinks it's a good sturdy bed.

I do understand as 600 quid was a lot more money to us a few years ago but it's just not practical now for DS.

I would definitely get him one. I think it's completely understandable that he wants somewhere for his friends to sit.

Dd is 16 and DS is 13, they both still have high sleepers like this, but their rooms are single rooms with not much space so it makes sense for them to have these type of beds.

I make them change their own sheets.

Get him a new bed. We had one of those for our teen DS and you are right - changing the sheets is an absolute nightmare, standing on a damn ladder and trying to tuck sheets in down the other end! (If he won't budge, then make DH do it every single week, til he feels your pain)

I dithered over buying a new mattress for my bed til my DSis pointed out that you would spend thousands of pounds on a car - and yet you spend 8 hrs (at least) in every 24 in your bed.

BUY HIM A NEW BED - he's had this since he was 10.

I think at 13 that bed is too babyish.

Just an ordinary single divan bed is not very expensive. Is the mattress ok? And a normal single size? If so, you could just buy a new base.

Thankyou.

You've all confirmed what I thought.

I'll get him a new one :)

If his room is big enough buy a double ottoman to see him through teen to 20s. Then it doesn’t matter if you buy this or next year.

A highrise bed is very childish for a teenager.

if in good condition they sell well.

dc recently went from a high sleeper to a single. we kept the built-in wardrobe and repurposed to drawers to a bedside table.

Was just going to write something similar. We are having a similar issue, but it's over whether to replace a perfectly functional single bed with a double as 15yo ds is 6ft1 and still growing. He says he's fine, but is looking a bit uncomfortable in his single bed.

You can keep the mattress though and you can probably get a basic bed frame for the price you would get for selling his current bed

It was £600 investment from being his brothers bed, yes? He needs an upgrade, they are quite childish. See if you can free cycle the old bed. But yes, a new one will last a while too

Definitely get a new bed. He has his own room now. He's getting to an age now where bunk style beds look too childish. The desk space will be too small for him to practically use I'd imagine soon.

I'm sure someone will buy it, though they'd probably not want the mattress.

I'd say if there's space even consider a double he can use into early adulthood. Basically unless you're moving again you want this bed to be the last one you have to get for him.

Get him a double bed if you can fit one in the room. At 13 he's about to hit puberty/growth spurt and a small single bed isn't great if he's going to be tall.

If you buy a double now you'll be grateful if in two years time he's 6ft 2", which is eminently possible.

I'd be looking at a new mattress then too, I swung it with DH as we would only need a base as we bought a new mattress when we moved here 8 months ago.

I had similar with my son. Begged for a high sleeper when we moved house when he was about 10 Spent £500 on one and by the time he was 12 he was fed up of it and wanted a single bed instead. He just wanted to be able to chill on the bed without climbing and in the end I relented and got the single bed, which be much prefers.

Worse of all is I wanted to sell the original bed but it was so hard to take down, it ended up all falling apart as I did and had to go to the tip... such a waste

a single is fine. even for a tall teen imo.

after all, as adults many people share a double, which leaves less than a single size space per person...