Concerned about BF who is travelling. No contact and hasn’t been on his phone

[Sully9]

He was travelling with friends but they’ve left to go somewhere else and he’s stayed in Thailand. No contact with isn’t normal and Today it’s been 21 hours since he was last active on any social media’s. Would you be worried not sure what to do?

It's probably just lack of signal, but I can understand your concern OP. I hope it's all ok.

I reckon it's a phone issue too. I'm sure he'll be in contact soon,hard not to worry when you're half way across the world.

Maybe going forward he could update you of itinerary.

When we were on Thailand we all took a photo of each others passports and sent them to our parents at home. Every parent had 6 passport photos on emails lol. We did it was as we were on koh tao and tourists were being killed so jt wasn't ott at the time. We also provided our itinerary and updated changes so they knew which hostel etc

Why do people just assume cheating. Good god.

My husband went incognito on a trip once - he lost his phone. Simple.

This!

I'm constantly staggered by the ignorance and low expectations of some mumsnetters here

The vast majority of visitors to Thailand do not have sex with prostitutes.

Leave the lad alone, he won't want to be bothered all the time. No wonder he's turned his phone off.

He's off having a good time, and it makes me wonder why you're not there, OP?

I wouldn't be happy about my boyfriend going off to Thailand with his mates, or even by himself.

Ignore this fucking stupidity.

I appreciate this wasn’t actually your first thought!

I would be almost certain it’s a tech problem, it happens and even with all the best laid plans can happen suddenly. Hope you hear from him soon!

Absolutely!
Op's partner is obviously balls deep in someone else half her age rather than simply having no WIFI.

@Sully9 When my son went for a year out in NZ/Canada, he used to phone me- I went to see a friend 25 miles away.

I mentioned to son I was staying there for a night.

When I got there, she invited me to stay for longer, and unbeknown to me, my son was out of his mind with worry, as he couldn't contact me due to bad phone reception. {to be fair son used to have to sometimes help me out of bed in the morning due to severe slipped disc at that time}

He'd sent his GF's father round to my house and they were literally about to break in.

All down to poor WIFI.

The old adage ''No news is good news'' is often true.

Hope you hear from him soon, and that your mind is put at rest.

To be fair it’s not the lack of contact that’s making me suspect he’s not alone. Or the fact that it’s Thailand.

it’s the fact that his pals have gone on without him and he has chosen to remain behind. I find that really strange.

As I said earlier, in my long experience of long haul backpacking (solo, and with a friend) it's not unusual at all.

Even the best of friends and travel buddies occasionally need a break from each other, or have different places that they want to visit. Splitting off part way through, or taking a side trip and then meeting up again, is entirely normal and common.

A friend who lives in Thailand has said that pickpocketing is a huge issue in some cities there. Is he in a city, OP? Could well have happened to him

It’s not, it’s really not.

Friends need a break from each other, sometimes plans change and they decide not to got to the next planned place and all but one wants to go somewhere else so they split for a brief time then meet again.

I have met so many travellers who have split with their friend group or groups where someone went somewhere else. To many it’s part of the adventure

Fair enough 🤷🏻‍♀️

So if you were backpacking with a couple of girls you would have one going off on their own? Do you not worry about the safety of that?

Girls obviously yes, he's not a girl though

I know. Was just a general question.

Hope you hear from him soon. It is most likely tech problems.

Bore off with 'be kind'.
They weren't aggressive or rude, just offering an opinion.

I don't find that strange at all, no need to stay with the group if you want to do different things, they are all adults I assume

Hope you hear from him soon OP, try not to worry too much. There could be any number of reasons he’s not been in contact, phone stolen or dead, bad wifi, or he could be having a mammoth sleep.

I used to work in the tourist industry and Thailand and the surrounding countries are very very popular for solo travel and it’s very normal for groups to split up on these routes as well. Does not mean he’s gone off with someone else, probably means his mates are more interested in seeing something that he’s not.

Any news op

And women do back pack solo. It isn’t even rare.

The vast majority perfectly safely.

In my experience its really common for groups to seperate, even women, and go off and do things on their own. It's common to fluctuate who you are travelling with or even join a different group of people for a bit

Plenty of people go travelling on their own, again even women. I probably wouldn't do it, but I'm not aghast at the thought of 'girls' going off on their own

Op its probably a tech issue rather than something has happened to him. Either phone lost/stolen/broken or no signal. I would give it more tome

Hope you hear from him soon, OP. Please ignore the posts saying he’s probably found another woman - you know him, and if your mind didn’t jump to that then I’d say it was extremely unlikely.

it’s most likely a signal issue. I’m sure he will message you as soon as he gets signal again.

A woman backpacking solo is incredibly common. If one member in a group wants to go solo then that’s their choice and they can make that decision. No one gets to say no because they don’t deem it safe.

I backpacked solo in my 20s through India Sri Lanka, Thailand and Indonesia, and various other places, sometimes with friends, often on my own, in 2000-2004. No harm came to me and I would encourage my DD to do the same.

I hate the idea that women shouldn't be able to do this.