Reckless couple

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My friends DP had a heart attack very recently.. DP was a heavy smoker and drank daily …minimum exercise… actually both of them live(d) this way. Friend says she’d stop smoking and drinking to support her partner

I visited recently and gave a gift of non alcoholic wine as a nice gesture seeing as he should not be drinking… he said thanks but he can still drink.

then, friend wanders to the garden and has a cigarette!!

countless social media pics of them on day / nights out at fried food places… he clearly has alcohol in his hand

plus her DP is being fitted with a defibrillator soon too and also has to take countless daily tablets.

friend has boasted that the DR says it was a 1 in a million in bad luck that her DP had a heart attack as he is ridiculously healthy….

i really do despair for them

This sounds quite preachy tbh. They are grown adults and if they choose to make poor choices for their health that’s up to them. Unless they both have some learning issue which prevents their understanding of the medical advice given, respectfully - butt out!

It’s their life not yours.
Inviting them over for a healthy meal and non alcoholic wine won’t be appealing to them so why bother?!

I think you need to leave them make their own choices. I know people who have been through similar and also stick 2 fingers up to it and carry on as they did before. It’s up to them ultimately.

When they whinge about their health due to those poor choices though, I have to say, I switch off from it. You need to learn to do the same. They don’t care about their own health, so why should you?

Jesus Christ where have all these sticky beaks come from over the past few days?
Fear not I wouldn't be attending if I were your 'friend'

You are describing a large chunk of the U.K. population!

Look around you and see how many overweight people there are as compared to ten twenty thirty years ago.

Look at how many McDonald's and Greggs there are and how busy they are!

No point lecturing your friends they simply don't care.

It’s a waste of money anyway because non alcoholic wine is shit.

Yes but your tone IS coming across as judging them.

you could have taken any other kind of gift if appropriate but you chose something that had a message.

That sounds like a fun evening

I work with someone who has a serious health condition that they are doing fuck all to manage. I also know someone who smoked through their pregnancy. People's choices are baffling sometimes but there's really nothing you can do about it.

It. Is. Their. Choice.

Their life.

As far as I know, having a heart attack does not mean you cant drink, in fact it has been proven that a small amount of red wine can have benefits to that group in particular.
I often watch Mortimer and Whitehouse on their fishing show and they both enjoy small amounts of alcohol having both had heart issues. They do appear to eat a heart healthy diet which includes small amounts of alcohol. There comes a point when you have to decide if you want x number of enjoyable years or two extra ones with limited enjoyment.

pics of them on day / nights out at fried food places… he clearly has alcohol in his hand

KFC doesn't sell booze.

OP, its literally none of your business.

You have an opinion. That is all.

You cannot fix other people. Stop trying to improve them.

Non-alcoholic wine is yucky, bring a fruit basket next time 😉

How odd. So they continue in their ways. And so? How is it any of your business?

My dad is the same. Smoked since 13, a big drinker, eats red meat once a day, usually more than once. He's 61. Had a health scare couple of years ago, but recovered and continues in his ways. According to him, he'd rather live shorter, but with the things he loves, than drag it out sober, munching salad. His own father - my grandad - was exactly the same, big drinker, smoker, red meat until he died. Lived to 87.

It's his life and his choice, wouldn't occur to me to nag him to change, it's his business. Plus I agree with him.

He has plenty of money and private insurance, so not a 'drain'.