Which is more acceptable?

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OK- so I thought this might be a good debate for Mumsnetters on a Friday ;)

Chatting to my partner last night and they mentioned its ok to pee in the shower. This is the same person who wont share a towel and has to have their own individual towel - no "family towels" as they say this is disgusting.

So the debate is - which is worse?

YABU - Peeing in the shower is acceptable but sharing a towel with your loved one is totally grosse

YANBU - Sharing a towel with someone you are intimate with is perfectly fine - weeing in the shower is actually NOT acceptable.

So there will be lots of you probably that think both options are totally disgusting or wrong - but can you choose which is closest to your view or which you could tolerate more.

Poll is meant to be lighthearted. There is no relationship issue involved here it just came up in conversation.

Nooo....no sharing towels.....at all. Pee? meh I guess it gets washed away but not ideal.

Family towels?! This is a thing? 🤢 I can't say I like the sound of either, but I suppose if I had to choose I'd rather live with someone who peed in the shower, towel sharing is vile!
Just to clarify, I mean sharing a towel that's in use is vile - once a towel has been washed it's anyone's, however once it has been used it is used by that person until its next wash and absolutely doesn't get shared!

Share towels? I’m no clean freak, but urgh. Piss in the shower? I wouldn’t know unless I was told, so wouldn’t care as long as it was washed away.

I read about the environmental aspect of peeing at start of a shower so decided to start. After a couple of weeks it was like Pavlov's dogs, I HAD to pee each time, whether I actually needed to go or not. I also couldn't turn on the shower to heat as the urge would be so sudden and strong. That nipped it in the bud sharpish.

Same. Both are fine imo.

Ditto

Weeing in the shower and sharing towels are fine here.

We've all had to wee into the bath too when someone is hogging the (separate) toilet and just give it a spray with cleaner and swill it down the plug with the shower head 😬

All our towels are the same colour so we just grab whichever is dry. They all get washed every few days and we're only using them to dry our already clean bodies so dont have a problem with this.

Weeing in the shower is pretty gross though. I don't want to shower in effectively someone else's toilet, even after they've rinsed the wee down the plug.

Using a towel that has been already used to dry another person = rank.

I'm always amazed by what people find gross - so you'd have you've husbands cock in your mouth but you would use his towel? WTF?

I wee in the shower, it's a reflex.

Towels urgh. We all have our own.

I'm not bothered by either, think both of those are ok.

Wouldn’t want to dry my face with a towel that someone else potentially dried their arse and feet, even if they are clean I still find it gross

This thread confirms to me that MN is a different planet 😄Using the same towel as your immediate family is "vile"?? WTF? These are the people you share a bed with, share germs, bodily fluids and air space with - but rubbing your clean body with something that has touched their clean body is "fucking revolting"?? I am absolutely boggled 😄

If your husband wiped his arse crack with a towel, you would use it to wipe your mouth?

I had no idea that it would be considered foul to share towels within close family. We have a couple of small towels that we use for our face and hair and then a selection of larger body ones. They all get changed a couple of times a week.

Peeing in the shower has never occurred to me. I always have a wee before I get in. I just wouldn’t do it, seems wrong!

Well my child often pees in the bath. When they were a baby they even pooed in it (usually when I got in with them!). I can’t see an issue with peeing in the shower, it gets washed down with soap and water.

I don't use a bath towel to dry my mouth/face

Although i don't wash my face in the shower tbf

If I have to pick, sharing towels is worse.

Peeing in the shower (at the beginning or middle,not as you are going out) is fine, it all gets washed away from the body and the bath. If you ever go swimming in a pool you're already hanging out in someone else's pee anyway.

Sharing towels, you're relying on the other person to wash properly, and also to not have any undiagnosed or untaken care of issues that can transfer from the towel.

Are we talking about every individual having their own designated towels that only they use or that once someone has used a towel it's 'theirs' until it gets washed? The former seems unnecessary but the latter surely goes without saying?!
Also, I'm assuming we're talking about bath towels? Hand towels are shared, aren't they?!

Do you mean sharing a towel without washing it? Or do you mean having a stack of family towels which get shared but washed in-between uses? I don’t find the idea of sharing a towel someone else has used gross if it’s been washed but wouldn’t really want to use one someone else used first. Still preferable to using a shower someone else has peed in though! Admittedly I don’t properly clean my shower out often though as I find it a faff and my shower doesn’t drain brilliantly so pools of water will be left in it so I’m not convinced all the pee would be washed away. Luckily I live alone so don’t have to worry about anybody peeing in there!

I'm sure I read/saw something once about it being healthier to wee in the shower as you aren't having to wipe with tissue after, you are washing instead. So for those with cystitis, UTIs, thrush or dry vag it was recommended.

Shared (used) towels is gross! My teen DD would faint if she found she had used a towel her twin DB had used after his last shower.

We all have different colour towels so don’t even use clean ones that belong to each other.

I’ve always shared towels with dh. I just don’t see how it can be ‘gross’ to share towels with someone you kiss and have sex with! Though maybe those who find it disgusting, insist on going over him with bleach and a Brillo pad before the deed is permitted.
Nothing much from hyper-germophobe MNers would surprise me.

Both are fine. But I'd rather have the towel first so it's not wet.

I can't begin to understand what's wrong with peeing in the shower.