Will try to keep it short…
Been subletting a room from a friend of a friend for 18 months. Let’s call her Chardonnay. She’s on the lease for the flat, I am not and pay her cash, and gave her a month deposit.
She’s quite ‘type A’ and tricky at times, but was okay until her boyfriend dumped her 6 months ago - then she became really moody and unpleasant. Yelling at me and other flat-mate for the smallest of things. Relations broken down entirely almost. I mentioned maybe moving and she hit the roof and declared she’d need 3 months notice, I was to pay for a professional clean of my ( clean, tidy room)… and find a replacement lodger for the room.
So when Chards was at work Monday, I went with a friend and moved all my stuff out. I then sent a message telling her I’d be gone by the time she was back. My rent ( which includes bills) was due this Friday but she has my months deposit still.
Chardonnay went mad, according to other housemate. Left work to come back and catch me but I was long gone, and assumed she wouldn’t give back me back my deposit anyway so we’re quits.
She’s steaming, telling people I left her in the lurch, that I owe her money etc. that she had to leave important work meeting to come back that day.
YABU - the grown up thing would have been to say goodbye in person and stay 3 months.
YANbU - you owe her nothing and it was fine to do a flit.