Called a fat pig by a random child

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I was in the shop with my 4yoDD and a 10 year old child told her brother to just buy the sweets he wanted. He said ‘don’t worry about looking like a fat pig infront of the other fat pig’and then looked at me. There was absolutely no one else around. I’m a size 16 and trying to lose weight. I just got back in the car with tears in my eyes

That child's comment says so much about them and their environment and nothing at all about you.
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Sone children are dragged up. Sorry that happened to you.

Sorry to say but I would have told the little bitch to fuck off.

She's a rude little shit. Sorry she made you feel bad.

I would have said "you gotta watch the sweeties mate, I was as skinny as you when I was your age" 😂

..."dragged up"..."tell the little bitch to fuck off"...

Pot and kettle much?

I mean a stern "excuse me, how dare you talk about me like that" sure, but I don't think swearing at a ten year old for calling you a fat pig is a great look for a grown adult.

Taste of their own medicine though

This is so horrible, op. You were the better person to ignore.
i may have said nothing too as would be too shocked and upset. But something like, ‘excuse me, how dare you speak to anyone like that?’

Or, ‘well, maybe I am overweight but I can always lose it, but you will always be mean and rude and that is much, much worse!’

Child is a little shit, probably being 'raised' by an older little shit. It's pitiful really.

Let's hope the wee knob choked on his sweeties.

I’m sorry you’re upset but please try not to take it to heart. As a teacher I meet kids like this all the time and they are nearly always from a horrific home with parents who talk to people like shit. It’s sad but basic respect and just being normal, kind, nicely spoken people seems to have gone out of the window for many families.

They probably don’t understand how hurtful they were being.

My nephew called my DSis fat - she’s a solid size 8 🤣

It was just the latest word being used at school. When I asked him what it meant he didn’t even know.

Just because someone's asking for trouble, doesn't mean you have to be the one to give it to them.

There were two kids present who didn't call anyone a fat pig (the brother and OP's DD) who could have got quite upset by OP swearing and then the girl answering that back and so on and so forth.

Edit: also the slight possibility of a parent somewhere else in the shop/waiting outside who might get rather angry when told a half-truth of "that lady there swore at me".

I probably would have said to the girl that that was not a nice thing to say, but not made it sound like I felt she was talking about me. I think it is useful to let children know when they are in the wrong rather that let them go unchallenged. If they hear it from different people, they are more likely to think twice before doing it again.

That's awful. Kids can say awful and untrue things though. Sadly I mean I got called fat when I was actually skinny just for a reaction

He is clearly being dragged up not brought up to have respect for others.

Rude child.

I'd rather be seen as fat than dragged up.

Many years ago we viewed a house and took my parents along for our second look. The daughter of the house, who must have been 7/8 years old curled her lip at my mum and announced "I don't like you". Her parents stood there and said nothing. My mum looked her square in the eye and said "I don't like you either". That shut her up!

Urghhh, what a horrible little child. It sounds like he was deliberately trying to get you to react. I think unfortunately some kids figure out that there are relatively few consequences, probably because there aren't any at home, and random adults out in the world don't have the power to do anything about their behaviour.

Something similar happened to me about 10 years ago, but it was a teenager. I was in the supermarket getting a pastry from the bakery, and heard this voice behind me say "fat bitch". Turned around and could only see her, nobody else nearby, so realised she was talking to/about me. I didn't know what to do, so just carried on. I suspected that she would have been satisfied if I'd looked upset, and I doubted that anything I said to her would make her regret it.

In my worst moments, I hope that one day, they make a mistake and do this to someone who will make them regret it. I don't believe in karma exactly, but I do think that people tend to repeat behaviours until they are curbed. Here's to the curbing 🥂

You must be feeling seriously insecure to let a 10 yo make you cry!!
10 yo are stupid and have no idea about empathy or how they can hurt other people so don't take it to heart. It's not like she said it knowing it would hurt you she probably heard it from a friend or a parent. Just ignore it kids are silly

Of course a 10 year old knows that a comment like that would be hurtful 🙄

Oh come on seriously??

Have you never actually met a 10 year old?

You might have a point if the kid was 5.

OP, I would've spun straight around and asked her to repeat it, then given her both barrels, child or not.

Disgusting.
You must have been I shock, but wouldn't it be great to say 'what did you just call me? Would you like to say that again?' and find whatever adult they are with, march them out and get them to repeat it again. And watch them squirm like pigs. Nasty little shit. Old enough to know better.

There's some unfortunate types in this world, and its equally unfortunate they get to breed. Small reflections of their parents....

have no idea about empathy or how they can hurt other people

Utter rubbish.

I would have told them off. I genuinely don't care what their parent would think when I did.

How dare they go around saying that kind of stuff.

I'm confused. You say her but then say he - was the child who made the rude remark a girl or a boy?