If you’re gorgeous and you know it..

[Dancehalldarling]

.. clap your hands 👏 (no I’m joking.)

Nc for this. Those of you that know you’re good looking, when complimented do you agree/acknowledge you know you’re good looking or do you insist you’re not/reverse the compliment?

do you think it’s unreasonable to outright say “I am absolutely beautiful” or hold yourself in high regard?

interesting views! For me, if I thank someone I feel like that is me agreeing. I don’t know if it’s a ND thing but I immediately start pointing out anything that could be wrong with me. It genuinely makes my toes curl when somebody comments on my appearance!

the past two days I have had 2 separate people say to me “wow you’re stunning you’re like a model” this is NOT a stealth brag by the way. I just thought it was weird that 2 separate people said the same word for word sentence and both times I replied “god no I’m not please don’t be stupid I look like shit”. Ironically, I was helping the people on both occasions so I thought my kindness would be commented on rather than my appearance. I’m inwardly cringing at myself for getting so flustered and I know I don’t look like “shit” so to speak but I’m carrying more weight than I’d like to and have a few things I’d like tweaking but gahhhhh it makes me cringe!

I don't know but I wish I had known and appreciated that I was very pretty in my 20s/30s.

People did tell me and I just laughed it off.

I feel like I could have achieved more in life had I known and capitalised on my looks.

You can't really disagree with them, though, because it's their opinion. Not yours.

I've learnt over many years that a simple "thanks that's kind of you to say" is the quickest way to deflect from the attention on you and move on.

Oh fgs OP

Say thank you. As with any compliment

This will be me, I fear!

I agree.

I don’t think saying oh thank you that’s really kind of you, is agreeing , it’s just a polite response. There is no need to put yourself down.

i just say thank you that’s really sweet of you and then often something like you look great too, I love your hair/shoes/skirt or whatever.

if a man does it it is slightly different, giving a compliment back can turn it into a flirt session, it depends on who it is and their intent. But sometimes a compliment is just a compliment.

for example on Holiday a few years ago, the waiter said to me, “you have a very beautiful face , everyone is talking about it”. And gestured to the other staff, He wasn’t flirting, I could tell not just from his demeanor, but as I had seen him with his boyfriend. I just said thank you , smiled gently, and brushed it off. Saying something like no really I look like shit, or hey your face is lovely too, would have been inappropriate.

I saw thank you it's the stress! (As people compliment my slim post baby figure. It's true!)

I used to be, i was never traditionally attractive, but more quirky attractive, I'm fat and old now and it came as a real shock when I stopped being attractive.

If anyone complimented me I'd always just say thank you. I would sometimes make a joke out of it, but most of the time I'd just accept the compliment.

I wish more women would just accept compliments. If I see someone with great hair or an outfit I like etc, I'll always compliment them, but the amount of people who simply don't know how to respond means we don't like to acknowledge ourselves or it's seen as being big headed

I am beautiful, and complimented often. I just smile and say thank you, and don't dwell on it. It is what it is. I am not vain, just honest.

Same.

Age and a love of carbs have taken all my looks but I still have a winning personality.

"Thank you, that's so kind of you. A small compliment really can make your day". No false modesty, self congratulation or awkwardness.

I think you should say thank you and accept the compliment. I have never had this problem as I'm fairly hideous with a terrible personality but if I did, I would just smile and thank the person. I'd find something nice to say back, too.

It would be very odd to be told ‘You are very beautiful’ except in a dodgy pick-up situation. I am often complimented on eg my hair, clothes, skin. I always say thank you. I can’t imagine saying ‘I agree’!

I don't think I'm particularly attractive, but when I'm complimented (which generally happens for my clothes rather than me specifically) I'm appreciative and polite I think. I don't agree, nor do I disagree.

I find it odd when people disagree with a compliment - I get why they do it but as the compliment-giver you're then left a bit stuck, conversationally. They've basically said your opinion (that they look nice or whatever) is wrong.

"god no I’m not please don’t be stupid I look like shit”.

So, you would tell someone they are stupid for paying you a compliment? I hope you wouldn't, because that would be incredibly rude. Why would you want to tell them you look like shit if they've said you look nice? What is wrong with just thanking them?

I think it all depends how it’s said tbh, “thankyou” with a hair flip or a smile or something might come across like you agree, “awwww that’s sweet, thankyou” and if you think they are pretty maybe return the compliment, if it’s a woman saying it, if it’s a man that would seem flirty

I have been told that by women. Some from different cultures.

I’m certain none of them were trying to pick me up.

I used to get this when younger and would just laugh and say thanks, and maybe compliment them in return. I wouldn't have agreed "Yes aren't I gorgeous!" Because well... that would be awkward 😂 but also because I didn't think so much of myself, I was quite insecure. Looking back at old photos now though I can see what they meant!

This

If you’re gorgeous and you know it clap your hands..
i will because why the fuck not👏👏👏👏Although i look like crap.

I would often feel awkward but say thank you

Others often took this as me thinking I didn’t know how good looking/attractive I was. I absolutely did and quite self absorbed/vain a guy I worked with once called this out and said HRTQueen knows exactly how gorgeous she is and others argued with him 😬

im not now but thats fine I have had my time to shine

I am no longer beautiful but I used to be. I used to always deny the compliment or make some self-deorecating remark until an older man - a friend if my parents - gently told me off for it. He said "You need to learn to graciously accept a compliment because you're going to get plenty of them. Just smile and say thank you." Which I've tried to do ever since (although it's a long time since I've had the opportunity!)

I used to be pretty good looking when younger/slimmer. Originally I downplayed it all as in “oh don’t be silly”, and start listing faults, but when I myself compliment people I HATE when they do that, so I learned to say “aw thank you that’s a nice thing to say” or something along these lines.
Agree its nice to offer a genuine compliment back